How to overcome your complexes?

What is a complex?

The De Mauro dictionary of the Italian language defines the word "complex" as "a set of thoughts, desires, memories, in part or completely unconscious, which are formed in childhood and influence the psychic life of the adult individual". From a psychological point of view, the complex translates into a focus on a physical, psychic or social defect (real or imaginary). The person who complexes himself creates a "deformed image of himself. There are different types of complexes:

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• physical complexes: they mostly affect women since they are the ones who suffer strong pressure on their image from a society that is founded on the cult of appearance. They feel compelled to be beautiful and seductive in any circumstance. Complexes generally concern the body: weight, breasts, belly and butt.
• psychic complexes: they can concern the lack of culture, intelligence, humor, dynamism.
• social complexes: they concern money, profession or origins.

The causes date back to childhood

The complexes are to be attributed to errors committed by the parents in the education of the child: incorrect models of perfection were presented and exaggerated pressure was applied.

Complexes are also closely linked to self-esteem issues. As you grow up, you begin to compare yourself to others. Today, the objects of comparison are the images conveyed by the mass media, which dictate too high standards and contribute to exacerbate the feeling of inferiority.

Finally, it can happen that people with complexes have a certain predisposition to perfectionism and unconsciously refuse to be part of the crowd, to be ordinary people.

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Is it normal to get complex?

It is human to become complexes and the reason is simple: we are all imperfect and we know it. What matters is to develop a strategy to accept our own imperfections. We must certainly not give up correcting our defects, but learn to do it with serenity.

When should you worry?

In extreme cases, physical complexes can turn into a pathological obsession, indicated with the technical term "dysmorphophobia" (or "the fear of exposing the deformities of one's body and, above all, the" inability to accept one's body as it is " Who has serious complexes analyzes himself in the smallest details and fails to consider himself globally: he no longer considers himself as a human being, but as an object to be modified.
A person is dysmorphophobic when he is no longer able to carry out certain actions of daily life because his psyche prevents him from doing it: he cannot go to the beach because he cannot accept his body, he does not wear sandals because he hates his feet.

When too much importance is attached to a complex, one is persuaded that this imperfection is the cause of all personal failures. This lack of self-esteem is normal during adolescence but takes on a completely different dimension if it occurs in adulthood and can easily lead to depression. In this case there is only one remedy: psychoanalysis.

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How to overcome the complexes?

First of all, admit that you are imperfect and give up wanting to please everyone at any cost. Turn your differences into advantages and focus on what you do well. Do not hesitate to launch yourself in the professional sectors that are able to enhance your skills. Learn to look in the mirror to see yourself as a person and not to check if your nose is always long or if your hips are still round: charm goes far beyond physical beauty.

It is also of primary importance to hang out with the right people: your family and friends must know how to accept you for who you are and make you feel special. your problems.