Kill the desire
1) On the first date
According to some seduction specialists, it only takes a few moments to understand if we can like the person in front of us. And if you also bring desire killers ... it's not even worth a try!
- The breath that kills. It does not matter if he has it because he ate heavily or because he has problems with his teeth, the result does not change: the mere idea of kissing him makes you sick to stomach!
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- Dirty nails. You can only accept it if he is a painter (and has just left his studio) or if he has just changed a tire on the car ... otherwise: hands off beautiful!
- Grammar errors. You had already noticed errors in her emails, but you were confident, thinking that not everyone pays attention when typing on the computer. But now, no excuses! His "I wish you come with me" you just can't accept them! Every man for himself!
- That strange smell. Between those who sprinkle themselves with low-quality aftershave, those who would be able to pierce the ozone layer by themselves for how much deodorant is on, and those who smell so sweat that they leave a trail when it passes, the choice is really difficult ... help!
- Heavy jokes. He thinks he's nice and doesn't spare you a single one of his trucker jokes. Some even make you smile, but the most sexist, racist, homophobic ones, you just can't stand them. You would want to shut him up forever!
- He's a braggart. You have been talking for 10 minutes and you already know that he spent his last vacation on the Costa Smeralda, that he just had a stratospheric rise, that he almost failed to enter Bocconi (because the examining commission was jealous of his intelligence, of course). In short, he is really good ... but he is deadly bored!
- The "former employees". "Enrica had blue eyes and blond curls", "with Enrica we often came to this restaurant", "this shirt was given to me by Enrica" ... but if this Enrica is so perfect, so much so that he does nothing but talk of her, why doesn't she fit together anymore? Maybe she ditched him because she was talking about Mariella, the former former?
- He doesn't stop looking at the others. You have the impression of having gone out with a Maremma shepherd who drools when staring at every girl within a radius of 50 meters! Simple, he can't stop watching all the women go by.As if you weren't there. Indeed, even worse: he even dares to comment visibly, as if you were his friend! Next!
- Mr. "I've already thought of it". It is true that we do not always know what we want and we blame men for being afraid to commit. But from here to giving in to the first comer who immediately talks to you about marriage, children and family lunches, it passes ... it's also a bit strange, isn't it?
2) In bed with ...
It has passed the first tests and the desire is now skyrocketing. Why resist then? But ouch ouch, the details that kill manage to creep even in the bedroom ... be alert!
- His house sucks! Many of us just can't accept doing it in a room where the stale air reigns, on sheets that haven't been changed since last summer, colonized by mites and sprinkled with hair of dubious origin ... ashtrays full to the brim with cigarette butts, just to go to the bathroom ... where, last but not least, it seems to be in a latrine in Calcutta and next to the toilet stands a huge pile of Playboy and Penthouse! Ok, you don't have to be a clean freak, but when it's too much it's too much! We just ask for a little tact and decency!
- The sock that kills. Ok, tastes are not discussed: we will not criticize the physical characteristics at all. But certain small details are capable of making our skin crawl. A boxer with blue bears, or an old slippino with worn rubber ... long toenails, a disgusting stench of sweat, hair in unexpected places ... the list could be endless!
- During the act. Dare to get angry if you realize that the word "foreplay" is not part of her vocabulary ... if she thinks she is a porn star and doesn't even spend five minutes pampering you. Not to mention the choice of phrases to whisper in your ear, to make your skin crawl! Of course, everyone has their own verbal sex-killers: a "come on, my slut" or a "can I introduce my watering hose into your little garden of love?" they can destroy a sensual moment for some of us, but for others they can also turn it on ...
3) As a couple
You are a proven couple and move in together. You thought there was no risk since they've been together for a long time. You are very wrong! Wish killers can come out just when you least expect it!
- Excessive jealousy. "Duties? With whom ? Do you like your new colleague, eh? " at first this kind of questions can be considered as proofs of love and attention, but in the long run they risk becoming a real poison for the couple. The step from curiosity to police interrogations is small: cell phones, answering machines, email addresses ... everything is allowed. They quickly become an obsession and end up ruining relationships. One of the two will eventually burst!
- Change the other at all costs. At first he was discreet: he encouraged you to change your haircut, to put on a different make-up, to abandon your sneakers in favor of heels ... Then he started, at the next level, suggesting you change friendships, work, pastimes ... In short, perhaps he would like to be with another type of woman, and you end up not recognizing yourself anymore: neither when you look in the mirror, nor in your way of looking at the world.
- The neglect. By dint of living together, you make no more efforts. Staying in your pajamas all day, shaving off in front of him, answering each other in monosyllables, getting fat, spending whole evenings in front of the television without speaking… routine has installed itself in your love. It's sad, but you still have time to save your relationship!
