TWO HEARTS AND TWO HUTS: THE ADVANTAGES OF LIVING APART, EVEN AS A COUPLE - LOVE-E-PSYCHOLOGY

Two hearts and two huts: the advantages of living apart, while being a couple

Are you really sure you are ready to live together? When one thinks that there is true love, the one with a capital A, it is assumed that one must be ready and willing to choose to live together (if not to get married), with all the appropriate thoughts, and that alternatively then not you are solid enough to really share life. But who said it? You can live together while not living together and a relationship can be just as strong with two huts! Let's find out what are the advantages of having two separate houses and a relationship, also because here's what happens when you go to live together, look:

1. Live together when you really feel like it

If you live together in many circumstances, you are forced to be together even when you need a moment of solitude. If anyone thinks this strengthens the couple, we know in our hearts that having the chance to escape can be a luxury. So on the contrary it happens that, having two different houses, the shared moments are the result not of the daily routine but of precise choices that are made day by day. So often two hearts and two huts is synonymous with greater authenticity, contrary to what one would expect ...

2. Cultivate your individuality

Living alone is often a complicated thing: your washing machines, what to cook for yourself, the shopping to do, where, how and when all alone. While it is true that facing one's responsibilities alone (including rent and bills) is more difficult, the one that does not kill, fortifies, strongly and truly forming one's individuality. This includes all the small daily choices, including those of furniture. This individual premise could be an excellent springboard for a more solid and conscious shared future.

3. Learn to respect the space of others, remaining independent

If you have two houses, it is very easy to understand the other's need for solitude, freedom and independence. Respect is the basis of the idea that one wants to have not a room, but a life all to oneself, to share. Perhaps it seems obvious, but in a partner's house, even though he can feel at home, one is always in the space of a other, and we must respect it. This is also a way of growing together, considering the independence of the other.

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4. Being able to choose where to stay

Let's say you have tenants and he doesn't, you can choose whether to stay in company or not. Whether to stay in the house with the balcony or the one with the terrace, whether to stay in the house in the center or on the outskirts. In short: having two separate houses in pairs, is equivalent to having TWO houses, therefore in many occasions, a DOUBLE choice. And it doesn't look too bad, no.

5. Be free to live single

Having your own home is synonymous with doing what you want. If you want to leave your clothes lying around, your shoes everywhere, don't change the sheets, free. If you want to implement your thousand paranoia about cleaning on the contrary, free. In short: a life for two in a container for one, where you can maintain that margin of freedom to do what you want, without having to give too much (but always a minimum) weight to what those around you want. Free.

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