Sadomasochism

What is sadomasochism?
Sadomasochism is a sexual practice that uses pain and humiliation to achieve pleasure. The term is made up of the words sadism and masochism. The sadism - a term developed from the surname of the Marquis De Sade - consists, for a person, in inflicting suffering on the object of his desire to feel pleasure. The masochismon the contrary, it consists in feeling pain in order to achieve this same pleasure. The partners then establish a dominant / dominated relationship, where verbal violence and physical abuse are inflicted / received to provide intense satisfaction.

Practice
Don't get confused bondage And sadomasochism: while the use of handcuffs, or even spanking, is now a playful way to spice up one's sexual life, the real SM, on the other hand, is on a higher level. First of all it requires a particular staging and that is why it is often practiced in special private clubs. Everyone wears a costume that defines his role and uses different tools: masks, handcuffs, ropes and chains, whips ... The "master" then indulges in a series of rituals to subdue his "slave". With a view to humiliation, he can force his partner to adopt degrading positions, tie him to dominate him better, use verbal violence (insults) and inflict physical torture on him: flagellation, insertion of objects into the mucous membranes (anus, vagina, mouth) ... In some extreme forms, sadomasochism can lead to more serious mutilations: piercings, tattoos, but also injuries and burns.

The adepts
Considered for a long time as a deviant and reprehensible practice, it was reserved for some circles, such as the prostitution circuit. Today, with the spread of bondage and swinging, sadomasochism has lost some of its taboo charge. Despite this, the real SM, the one that hurts, remains a marginal practice, even if more and more curious people want to try to break the monotony, realize an erotic dream, please your partner, try new sensations ... these are all reasons for taking a tour in a private club.

Freedom or perversion?
Sadomasochism is still condemned by society. Even medicine looks at this type of practice with distrust, and considers sadomasochism a serious psychiatric pathology. Nevertheless, the risk of running into a true sadist is low, since the rules of the game must be clear from the start. Often it is more of a temporary and permissible dominant behavior, than of a real sadistic and perverse tendency without limits.

Sadomasochists: attention, danger
The limits must be well established to prevent MS from becoming dangerous: some practices can be risky, because those who say violence say wounds. Partners must then establish a code which, when used by the submissive person, means that the game must end immediately and without discussion. Security is a non-negotiable condition, as is the psychological balance of the two parties, given the impact that this type of sexuality can have on the participants (and in particular on the dominated).

What the law says
Even if, nowadays, it is evident that everyone lives their sex life as they see fit, does this mean being able to afford everything with the excuse that it is about our intimacy? Sadomasochism is not prohibited by law, as long as it is practiced between consenting adults. Here lies its limit: even if sadomasochism is based on a dominant / dominated relationship, no torture can be inflicted on the other without his consent. Otherwise it would be an assault, and the victim could file a complaint for torture and / or rape.

And the feelings?
The violence and humiliation that the partners authorize themselves are not inseparable from the emotional bond that unites them. In reverse. MS rituals are primarily based on mutual trust: this is why sadomasochism is generally practiced within a stable relationship as a couple and not in a swinger context, for example. Trying sadomasochism is something that is decided together and, like all sexual practices, it depends on the feelings that bind two people together.