Making up after a fight
Wanting to clarify the situation
Of course, calming things down is easier when the discussion wasn't violent. When insults and dishes fly, it is difficult to start again on a calm and serene basis.
To distance yourself from what just happened, you have to take into account the different points of view. Inevitably, tensions increase if everyone remains adamant in their positions. The only solution, however, is to put yourself in the other's place. Ruminating on the other's wrongs and convincing yourself that you are right is useless. Accepting that the other is a person different from oneself, who thinks differently, is the first step towards reconciliation. The most important thing is to understand that, despite these differences, finding a common ground is possible.
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The causes of the conflict
Ask yourself about the real causes of the conflict. Sometimes, the obvious reasons hide deeper causes. We often speak of the "drop that breaks the camel's back". In this case, it is not enough to resolve the obvious causes, but a dialogue must be established to explain this or that behavior.
Put pride aside
Reconciliation also means accepting not having been able to convince the other and not having made him change his mind, especially when you are sure he is wrong. You must accept that the other continues to think as before.
> There are, then, the cases in which you must be able to admit that you are not entirely right. This will show your interlocutor that your relationship is more important than being right or wrong.
> If you are always trying to be right, on the other hand, place more importance on your victory than on finding common ground. Adopt a permanent competitive strategy that requires a winner and a loser. To achieve reconciliation, you must be on the same Only in this way will you be satisfied to achieve a certain result together.
A state of mind propitious to reconciliation
Those who cannot make peace avoid direct confrontations with others. For these people, conflict is like a dead end. On the other hand, those who do not feel threatened are not afraid of conflicts, since they know how to get out of it.
At best, you take the first step. This allows you to give up your negative emotions and move towards the other.This is what one might call adult behavior: it is more profitable to resolve a conflict than by continuing to feed it.
In addition to words
Talking is good, but it's not enough. There are also many other ways to communicate, such as gestures and actions. For example, if you do a favor to a friend with whom you have quarreled, you show her that the conflict is over, without inevitably needing to make the point face to face.
Reconcile ... under the covers
An argument with your him? Between kisses and caresses, murmur to him "forgive me" ... and hop, that's it! However, it may happen that your body does not know how to ignore it, especially if the bomb is not completely defused! In this case, avoid resorting to the sex to disguise your anger or bitterness ... cuddling doesn't have to be a way to neglect dialogue. The goal of cuddling, on the other hand, is to show your man that he's always wanted, despite his flaws. This can only reassure him It's a way of saying that you put a stone on it.
