What women may not like in bed (and that we can hardly believe)
What do women dislike in bed? First of all, let's remember that it's not okay to generalize. "De gustobus non disputandum est "says the famous Latin phrase: everyone has their own tastes! Well yes, this also applies to sex ... even in love, everyone has their preferences and repulsions!
However, sex is everywhere: the media bombard our everyday life with sexual images, making us believe that we must try everything and, above all, that we must like everything ... Enough of this psychological stress, it is not like that! So here are some myths to dispel and, above all, some useful tips to better enjoy sex.
But before we proceed, here are some secrets for truly top sex!
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How to experience more pleasure in bed: here are 5 tips The pleasure chairWhat a woman dislikes in bed: 1. fellatio
Because you don't like it
Some women do not like giving their partner oral sex: taking the penis in their mouth causes them a sense of disgust caused by the taste or size. There are those who find it degrading, even, or not very romantic. A repulsion, therefore, both physical (nausea) and psychological (disgust, sense of submission).
Because you might like it
First of all, because when a woman is in love with her partner, she feels a sort of "carnal appetite" towards his whole body, and therefore also his penis. Fellatio can give you the feeling of completely "owning" your man: a beautiful feeling. Furthermore, this practice gives the man immense pleasure, comparable to that experienced during penetration. Out of love for him, and without making an effort, of course, we advise you to review your position on it, because depriving him of this pleasure would be a great sin. .
Instructions for Use
Do not hesitate to offer your partner, even directly, an "intimate toilet". A sensual shower, done by two, can be an excellent foreplay, while ensuring the hygiene necessary for fellatio! During the act, put your hand in a ring around the base of the penis. That way, your partner won't be able to get too deep into your throat, and you can get him out before ejaculation if you wish. Don't get under him, try to stay on top. That way, it can be you. to lead the cadence of the act. And you won't have the feeling of being dominated.
2. The sex toys
Why do not you like them
It may happen to some of us to see sex toys as little useful and unnecessary, if not downright ridiculous, interference in the relationship with a partner. They can give the impression of being vulgar, embarrassing and very far from the unique sensations that the warmth and texture of a real body can offer us.
Because you might like them
Of course, nature has given us everything we need to provide and receive pleasure. But sex toys are by no means useless ... they are an original way to spice up our sex life. When used as an extension of the hand, they can participate in two-way sex in a sensual and non-intrusive way. It is obviously important that sex toys be a "game", in name and in fact. It doesn't have to become indispensable during sex. You don't have to consider it a "rival" of your partner's sex, it has to serve to stimulate certain parts of your body differently.
Instructions for Use
Talk to your partner about it, ask him what he thinks, if he is tempted to try them. You may be surprised by his reaction! In the field of sex toys, nowadays, there is an embarrassment of choice! You can really choose the one you like the most ... If you've never tried, opt for something soft, small and fun, in order to "break the ice" gently. Take a look at these:
See also: Erotic objects: all sex toys for your hot moments!
© Pleasure4You Nova - G-spot vibrator3. Anal sex
Because you don't like it
Because anal sex hurts, it's painful. Or because you find it degrading and unhygienic.
Because you might like it
Often it is men who propose this practice to their partner, because for them it is a source of great pleasure.
This is because the anus, being narrower than the vagina, compresses the penis more, amplifying the sensations.
However, anal penetration also causes pleasure for women, who can also reach orgasm. Of course, it is something that is achieved progressively and gently, and the man must be sensitive to the needs of his partner.
Instructions for Use
To feel really comfortable, you need to pay particular attention to intimate hygiene. Do a lavender before practicing anal sex. If this practice disgusts you too much, don't worry! You don't have to do it! If your partner loves you, do not worry! he won't blame it on you! Perhaps, over time, you will gain more confidence in yourself and will want to try ...
4. The doggie
Because you don't like it
Some women find this position too animalistic and degrading. They feel submissive, lack of eye contact with their partner.
Because you might like it
The doggie reveals the bestial side that is in us ... it is normal, since the human being is, first of all, an animal. However, it is sometimes difficult to accept this part of us in today's world where everything tends to be aseptic and superficial. However, in sex we are guided by instincts that we cannot deny, because in addition to allowing us to procreate, sexual relations also provide us with unique pleasure. That of the doggie style is one of the positions that allow the woman to experience greater pleasure, because it is able to intensely stimulate the G-spot.
Instructions for Use
During your sexual intercourse, it is important that dominator / dominated roles alternate. For example, you can alternate the position of the doggie with that of the Amazon. If you put a mirror next to the bed, you could see the scene from another point of view, as if you were a spectator ... you will see, it will be a source of excitement. for you! During sexual intercourse, try to focus on the pleasure you are experiencing. Instead of thinking all the time about what your partner may or may not see or think about you, try to let yourself go! If this position is too painful if practiced vertically, you can let your partner lie on you and penetrate you smoothly with the help of a lubricant.
If you then aim directly at the "orgasm" goal, get help with these positions:
5. The cunnilingus
Because you don't like it
The reasons can be different: from a sense of shame to the fear of disgusting the partner with one's taste, from the feeling of having no control to a general feeling of discomfort.
Because you might like it
Cunnilungus is one of the acts that allow you to fully offer your body to your partner. Since the dawn of time, women have been raised to be ashamed of their bodies, and especially their genitals. Contrary to popular belief, most men love cunnilingus, because this practice is a source of pleasure for them too. You will see that, if you are sensitive enough, you will certainly be able to experience immense pleasure with this practice, since cunnilingus stimulates the clitoris, the female erogenous zone par excellence.
Instructions for Use
To appreciate a cunnilingus, you must first get to know each other. Looking at yourself, touching yourself, making contact with your body: all mandatory steps to learn to let yourself go and get the maximum pleasure from oral sex. If it makes you feel more comfortable, don't hesitate to thoroughly wash yourself just before letting your partner practice cunnilingus for you.
6. Do it not in bed
Because you don't like it
Because in most cases it is uncomfortable and you cannot relax. The fear of being seen doesn't excite you at all, on the contrary: it puts you in tension.
Because you might like it
Some couples like to spice up their sex life by "getting out of bed" and fulfilling more transgressive fantasies. But to break the routine, there are a thousand possibilities to explore even before leaving the bed! It is therefore not essential, but it can be a lot of fun if you have the courage to get out of the box.
The tricks to break the routine
Be original even without leaving the bedroom: do it at the foot of the bed, sideways, on the carpet, in the bathroom, on the desk ... and so on and so forth! If you don't want to give up the comfort guaranteed by your comfortable bed, here are some solutions: in a hotel room, in front of a lit fireplace, on a blanket in the middle of a flowery meadow! ...
7. Having group sex
Because you don't like it
Again, it is perfectly normal to be reticent about this sexual practice. Often, it is a male fantasy, which arises both from the desire to move one's sexual life, and from the perspective of sharing an out of the ordinary experience with one's partner. This practice can have harmful consequences for the couple: jealousy, contempt for the other, physical complexes ... It is very important, therefore, not to force yourself to do so, despite the insistence of the partner. Try to explain your reasons to him and, above all, try to understand the deep motivation of his desire.
Because you might like it
You may choose to experience love with multiple partners to get out of the routine of married life, but you don't have to let a third person in! Instead, you should try to find alternatives that respect both tastes and preferences.
Instructions for Use
If you are single, there are fewer problems. Making love in a group allows women with little experience or low self-esteem to have a sexual experience, without being subjected to the pressure of a face-to-face.