Sex friend: the reasons why you should immediately look for a friend of the bed
Sex friend: the origin of the term
Having a friend who is always ready to satisfy our libido is nothing new, but often this topic is taboo and not talked about freely. Recently also through the cult TV series Sex & The City, the concept of sex friend has been cleared through customs: the protagonists, in fact, are planning to have one by leveraging the advantages that this can have. But what are they? Watch this video before continuing.
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What is a sex friend for?
In times of sentimental and sexual famine, there are several ways to deal with the situation.
Some wait patiently to meet their future soul mate, others prefer to play with a vibrator or other types of sex toys from time to time.
Finally, there are those who do not want to do without real physical contact, those who want and need real body-to-body contact and those who do not give up an embrace based solely on simple pleasure. sex friend. They are a trusted friend with whom to enter into a relationship based only on sex, without emotional involvement. But what are the advantages and what are the risks (also psychological)?
The ideal sex friend
Choosing your sex friend carefully is important, it is not a toy, but a human being and it is always good to remember this. On the other hand, some selection criteria are essential to respect in order not to take the wrong person and then regret bitterly.
Here's what to watch out for and who to choose.
- A man with whom we have already had more than satisfactory sexual relations.
- Could be an ex, but only if the breakup was 100% digested by both of them.
- With him we feel comfortable enough to try acrobatic positions without inhibitions.
- Her body inspires us and ignites desire.
- And "generous with compliments, he doesn't hesitate to tell us how sublime we are. It's always good for our morale."
- We are friends and we respect each other without judging each other.
- He is quite helpful and responds quickly when we call him. Without asking too many questions.
- She's single. You don't borrow someone else's man!
The golden rules for having a sex friend
If you think you can have a sex friend in all innocence and without worrying about the consequences, you are wrong! Nothing is harmless as long as a relationship between two people is committed. And even if it is all about sex, there are some rules to follow in order not to hurt or harm the other.
- You don't fall in love! Child's play? It doesn't have to be. Having sex with a man can create feelings. Be sure of yourself and your heart to prevent Cupid's arrows from hitting you.
- The day after having sex, don't expect a bouquet of flowers, a message of love or anything. You have to be prepared not to hear it for a while.
- Be clear from the beginning of the relationship. Without necessarily using the formula: Do you want to be my sex friend? Let's make the other person understand that we are not looking for a story.
- If we realize that our sex friend is starting to develop feelings for us, we end the relationship or renegotiate the deal. It's no fun trying to make him believe that something is possible just to enjoy the carnal moments.
- Do not choose a guy who you are attracted to as a sex friend thinking you can make him fall in love: it will not happen, it is useless to delude yourself!
- If you have a stable bed friend, always use a condom, it could also be someone else's bed friend.
- Don't go out as a couple: no movies, no dinner for two, no weekend as a couple, no introductions to his group of friends. So let's avoid any misunderstanding about our intentions and protect his heart!
- We learn not to be exclusive. Does he have other sex friends besides you? It is your right! You are not together.
- We don't hesitate to put our sex friend aside as soon as we start a relationship with a new man. Just because you no longer have sex with him doesn't mean you have to throw him out of your life out of the blue. He was there for you when you needed him, you bonded with him and you owe him a modicum of loyalty. Explain the situation to him and stay in touch. Of course, be equally understanding when he tells you he is meeting a woman.
- Finally, there are no rules. And it can also happen that the two sex friends fall in love with each other to start a good story.
