Here's what's wrong with the joke of "Le Iene" to Natalia and Andrea

Last night a joke staged by the program “Le Iene” was broadcast on Italia 1. And you will ask yourselves, what's wrong with that? The show is not new to this type of content, nor to this type of controversy. Because, you know, where the hyenas are, there are disputes. This time, however, it has gone too far. Protagonists of the joke, Natalia Paragoni and Andrea Zelletta, a couple born in television studios, precisely during the program of Maria De Filippi "Men and Women". What was thought of as a game has degenerated into a crescendo of physical and verbal violence, turning into a show that has nothing to do with entertainment. It wasn't long before web users made their voices heard, condemning authors and protagonists in a unanimous chorus. But let's go into detail and see everything that is wrong with this staging.

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“Andrea, does Natalia really love you? To find out, he will pretend to have betrayed her ", this is how the narrator introduces the joke, explaining its intent. And then one wonders, the yardstick with which to assess whether a person truly loves us is given by the reaction of the latter in the face of a possible betrayal? Really bizarre method. The same protagonist, Natalia, during some stories posted on her Instagram profile following the broadcast, jokes with her boyfriend, noting that there are other ways, perhaps even more adequate, to have this type of confirmation and we can only agree .

"Mom, do the c *** your", phrases of this type have not gone unnoticed. Among the criticisms, in fact, there are many attacks on the bad language used by Natalia towards her parents. Of course, in the face of delicate situations like this, it is quite common for a person to explode in a fit of anger, but it is good to try to do it in respect of who we are facing, especially if it is about your family.

"You're a piece of shit", kicks, punches, insults, to which are added a hair pull and the throw of a glass of water. This is how Natalia reacts to the confirmation of a betrayal by her boyfriend. And then we wonder, how would we have reacted if this had happened in reverse? What if he was the one who treated his girlfriend this way? We would all rise up shouting, rightly, gender-based violence. Faced with such a reprehensible spectacle, it would be appropriate to learn to condemn violence a priori, without making distinctions of sex.

"He made me take the pill", this is one of the statements exclaimed by Natalia when she discovers that Andrea's fake lover is in the second month of pregnancy. What is wrong with this sentence? Simple, it is yet another confirmation of a sexist legacy for which it is the man who imposes his own decisions on the sexuality of women. Each of us is free to protect ourselves as we see fit from unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases, what matters is that we do it in full autonomy, without constraint or pressure from others. The use of a causative construction suggests a certain degree of passivity on the part of the girl in the face of a choice that concerns her body. In a couple it is essential to communicate, without the opinion of one dominating the other.

"You're a bitch!", It's never nice or right to address another woman using offensive terms of this type. No, not even if it's your boyfriend's lover. Often, in fact, one falls into the mistake of directing all one's anger on the other, when the only real culprit is the partner, the one who, by betraying, has failed in your commitment to mutual fidelity.

"What do you want to say to your boyfriend?", Asks the Hyena, after revealing it was a joke, and Natalia replies: "That now I will check his phone more and more". We take this opportunity to clarify once and for all: controlling the other person's cell phone, computer or tablet is neither healthy nor mature behavior, quite the opposite. Although often laughed at, this is an attitude that denotes a lack of trust in the partner and an invasion of privacy. The advice is to be with someone who does not give us reason to fall into this temptation.

Finally, one wonders: was it really necessary to carry this "joke" to the end, even though the girl was in the throes of hysterics? Is this the price to pay for a few more listeners?