Being born again after a pain can, indeed, must

You can and must be reborn after a pain

There are circumstances in life that we do not "own", that we cannot manage. They fall upon us, like hail in the middle of summer, and the only feelings they leave us are fear and despair. A love that ends suddenly, a marriage that breaks down, the disappearance of someone dear to us, illness, they are elusive events that upset us. Isn't it the fear of being alone that petrifies us? The pains of when we were children no longer exist, whose only remedy was a maternal voice full of good, as happens to him

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In fact, in those moments, the people close to us give us advice, and it seems to us that they are babbling; they hug us and we think "enough, leave me"; they invite us to go out and we think that they will never understand us, that all this is useless. The truth is that the only push to get out of the abyss we have to give ourselves, because we are the only friends we need; because loving each other is the only remedy for the fear of loneliness and it is within ourselves that we must find the strength to be reborn. But how to do it?

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To be reborn, we need our own remedy for fear

That's right, to be reborn we have to take two paths:

• 1) face our fears in depth, analyze them, understand what they are reducing us to;
• 2) find a remedy for our fears at the same time.

Everyone can have his own personal remedy: there are those who prefer a rush hour, those who dedicate themselves to music or dance, those who cook and those, like Federico Nicolaci, face great fear through writing. Federico is now 32 years old and is a tattoo artist but for 200 days he was locked up in an OPG, a judicial psychiatric hospital, despite not having any serious pathologies. From his book “Vecordia. 200 days of criminal asylum "we read:

"Do you think you are crazy?" There were two options.
The first was an affirmative answer; in that case I would have been a conscious fool. For heaven's sake, at least an honest fool.
In the second case, by answering no, I would have only consolidated the fact that a madman cannot know that he is mad, logically.
I chose another option, the most logical thing for my brain. “This is your job, if I'm crazy I can't know. If I am healthy you will let me go, otherwise I will stay here. " He widened his eyes, I think that in all his years of profession he had never heard such an answer.

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He made mistakes and admitted it, because facing fears also means becoming aware, but it was not easy to face, for many and interminable days, a reality like the one into which he was catapulted. Where did he find the strength? In the others, what we out here call "the crazy ones", and above all within oneself:

I had discovered a side of me that I would never have known if I had not gone there. I understood how the brain is the greatest strength we possess, punches are useless and only hurt if you can throw them, weapons go unloaded and fires go out, but a brain can create something spectacular if you can manage it. You can change the world starting with your (...).

And that's right, "You can change the world starting with yours", as did Federico who in his world experienced a fall into deep darkness and a rise that not even an eagle after being hanged would be able to do so!
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