"It's none of your business!": Emily Bingham's message
"Are you 30, when do you decide to start a family"? Or, "Well, don't you want to give your eldest son a little brother or sister?" All the women of this world have found themselves, sooner or later, at this point: parents, in-laws, but also friends, relatives and neighbors or even acquaintances, who seem not to understand a fundamental thing about motherhood - it is not a made public!
Often out of affection and without bad intentions, these types of comments are made on the agenda, without giving any thought to any consequences.Victim of these "vicious communications" was also Emily Bingham, a journalist who, with a provocative status, posted on her Facebook page a message that, probably, each of us has thought at least once in our life.
Bingham's point is extremely simple and acceptable: motherhood is a private matter, "mind your own business"! The journalist argues that no one should allow themselves to ask such a private thing from a woman, as there could be thousands of different reasons why a woman has not yet decided to have a baby: maybe it's not the right time, maybe she doesn't want to have any, maybe he would like to but he is experiencing health difficulties. And, in fact, Bingham is certainly right: why should motherhood, a special and intimate event of a couple, but above all of a woman, be the subject of public discussion? Why should a parent, relative, or mother-in-law feel compelled to ask, give unsolicited advice, or make inappropriate comments, especially if this type of question can create anxiety, stress, sadness and a sense of inadequacy?
The message on his Facebook page reads: "Hello everyone! Now that I have caught your attention with this photo of an ultrasound" found on Google, I would like to remind you that people's procreative intentions are not your business! Before asking a couple when they will have their first child, or asking those who already have children when they will have the second or third ... before you remind a woman in her thirties to hurry up because the biological clock is ticking ... stop . You do not know if this person is struggling with infertility problems, if he has other problems [...], if he is under stress, if he is precarious, if the moment is still not right. Of course, some women do not mind these questions. , but from my experience, and that of my friends, I know for a fact that these questions annoy most people. Whether you are a close friend, a parent, a relative, and that you have all the good intentions in the world, it doesn't matter. : it's not really your business. Ask them, rather, what they are happy with now ... "
The message, posted on his private profile, attracted global attention, as well as many shares and likes, a symptom that this problem is quite widespread. And you, what do you think?
