Sex: 10 myths about men
1 - Men are always ready to make love
We believe they are always ready for sex. They are never tired after a day of work, and they never have a headache. After all, they always think about sex, right? In reality, they too may be worried, stressed, tired or may simply not feel like it. Their emotions affect their body a lot, (just like we do) and can affect their libido. Less often, of course, but it is the same for them. Don't panic, then: if he doesn't want to make love, it doesn't mean he doesn't want you anymore.
2 - Men never pretend
That's not true, it's not just us. Although it can happen to us women more often (we are talking about four women for a man), only 47% of men always reach orgasm during vaginal penetration, and 3% even admit that they have never tried a orgasm during intercourse. Surprises?
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3 - Ejaculating inevitably means feeling pleasure
Not necessarily, just think of cliché # 2! Ejaculating does not always mean reaching orgasm. And vice versa, after all: some men reach orgasm without ejaculating, in this case we speak of "dry orgasm. But let's reassure ourselves: usually pleasure, orgasm and ejaculation are one and the same thing.
4 - Men would gladly do without foreplay
There is still an old prejudice according to which, when they make love, men have only one purpose: to reach orgasm. This is almost never true, because men, like women, need a lot of attention, caresses and foreplay. Of course, it can happen that, from time to time, these stages are skipped because both partners are overwhelmed by passion. Let's get it out of our mind, then, that foreplay is incompatible with male sexuality. On the contrary, they allow men not to focus only on their sexual performance and not to think only about erections.
5 - Their sexual problems are inevitably linked to a lack of desire
Often women quickly draw wrong conclusions when their man has an erection problem. Most of them think their partner doesn't want her anymore.
Ladies, reassure yourself, as 42% of men admit they have had erection problems at times. Stress, tiredness, shyness, worries are all explanations that show, once again, that the functioning of male sexuality is not only mechanical and that emotions are also important.
6 - Men are only attracted to women with perfect physique
Indeed, they love to watch the perfect women found in magazines or on television. For them these women represent an unattainable fantasy, not necessarily what they are looking for in real life. Just like women, after all, they too focus on physical appearance, but also on many other criteria such as character, sense of humor, elegance.
Besides, men aren't stupid - they know that paper models aren't real! It is not uncommon to hear a man admit that he prefers real, natural women who are comfortable with their bodies, regardless of size.
7 - They are not romantic
Some are, some are not. It's a question of temperament, not sex. You may not have realized the general trend of recent years: the return of the sensitive man. Welcome back to manners and gallantry! Today men reveal their sensitivity much more easily. And this undoubtedly makes them more romantic.
8 - Everyone loves fellatio
Who knows why, but women often think, often wrongly, that to be lovers worthy of the name, one must regularly practice fellatio. Well, this is an unfounded cliché: only 64% of men are staunch supporters of this practice.
9 - In bed, men only think about their own pleasure
This may have been true in the past, but things have changed. Especially since, by now, the pleasure of the partner is a source of essential pride for them, and for this they resort to foreplay of all kinds, and they no longer hesitate to use small, nice and sensual objects, just to increase the pleasure of women. Better this way, right?
10 - They are all the same
Maybe we have inherited these ideas from our mothers? Men are all the same, selfish, independent beings who sooner or later will betray us, leaving us for a woman younger than us. It's not true. Of course, there are constants in male behavior, but that doesn't mean everyone is a potential rascal. Many sensitive and romantic men are there waiting for us, with their desire to commit themselves. Everything is about being able to forget our bad experiences and those of our friends.
