Speed dating
In the past, to make new meetings, there were classified ads, marriage agencies, night hangouts, organized lunches, programs such as The dating game and, above all, luck! Today, singles have chosen to take matters into their own hands so as not to waste any more time. They participate in large group meetings that propose, in the best of cases, to meet - within a few minutes - the soul mate and, at worst, to have a laugh in the company of a new person!
What is that?
The term comes from the "English" speed dating "which could be translated" quick date "or" quick meeting ". Originally and in the 1990s, an American rabbi had the idea of organizing meeting evenings for Jewish singles who they did not know each other, to facilitate meetings between people of the same religious faith Sex and the city (season six) in which Charlotte, recently converted to Judaism, goes to one of these meetings.
The concept was then emulated, overcoming religious differences and borders, and has also spread to Italian cities
How does it work?
> The concept: In its modern version, speed dating is the organization of an evening of meetings during which the participants have a limited time (from 3 to 8 minutes: the duration that, according to specialists, it would take to know if a person can satisfy us!) to seduce or be seduced by the one sitting in front of them.
> Registration: generally done on the Internet and the cost can vary depending on the organization. In general, the organizers make a pre-selection to gather people of similar social classes, socio-cultural categories and ages ...
> Day X: Men and women divide into couples, sit facing each other, often in front of a glass, and can launch into a quick approach of seduction. conversation…
But be careful! It is forbidden to exchange personal data and tell each other if you want to see him again, to create a certain suspense ...
At the end of the imposed time, a sound signal echoes in the room, indicating that it is time to move on to someone else. Participants (usually men) change places and sit in front of a new single. A bit like in the game of chairs!
At the end of the evening, everyone will give the organizer a small form that they will have filled in accurately, based on the meetings they have made. They will have to indicate the numbers (or names / aliases) of the people they wish to see again. It is the organization that, if the two are okay, I'll put them in touch.
The pros and cons of speed dating
> The pros
- It is a quick way to find an abbreviation that corresponds to your usual selection criteria.
- There is no ambiguity: you know why you are there!
- It's convivial: you discover new places and new people.
- You can test your approach skills.
- It's a great way to learn how to talk about yourself, introduce yourself to others: to be reused on other occasions!
> The cons
- One has the impression of being in a "fast food meeting" that no longer leaves much room for the magic of a chance encounter and that makes the game of seduction superficial and too artificial.
- The limited time to get acquainted. Sometimes it's too short, sometimes it's too long!
- The competition to manage: the impression of being a product on a shelf, ready to be compared.
- If no one asks to see you again, it can be a blow to your ego ...
- People who know each other are not always up to our expectations: many time wasters, or participant-predators who are only there to increase the list of their victims ...
Where to register?
• here are some sites where you will find speed dating in various Italian cities: http://www.speeddate.it/
