MAKING LOVE WITH TWO MEN

How to go from fantasy to facts?

Generally, it is recommended that you do not try at any cost to make your erotic dreams come true. It must be considered that reality will never be able to equal fantasies. This is because a fantasy is, in principle, unattainable. It is an imaginary film that feeds your excitement. And it must not be confused with the realization of an erotic dream. However, if all goes as planned, this kind of adventure can prove fruitful and feed your sexual imagination for a long time.

Be sure what you want

First of all, you need to be sure that the desire you feel is shared by your partner! And, at the same time, you don't have to do it just to please him, it would be a failure. Nor do you have to do it to spice up your sex life, or because all your friends do it. The triangle is not inevitable. Because if there is an area in which there are no rules or obligations, it is that of sex!

With whom?

There are two possibilities:

- With your partner and a "guest", a friend or acquaintance. If your partner proposes someone, it's up to you to decide if you prefer that person to be a close friend of theirs. If your two partners do not know each other well, perhaps they will feel less comfortable and will not allow themselves to go very far ... invite the person in question beforehand, to discuss with you and your partner: this will reassure everyone.

- With two men who are part of a circle of friends and who have no sentimental connection with you. The trio can be formed by improvising during an evening. If you believe that you would feel more comfortable with a close friend, think about the consequences your meeting may have on your relationship in the future, which will certainly never be the same again. Do not hesitate to talk about it before taking action, and to ask for advice from another person (preferably another woman) who has already gone through this experience. But be careful: whether you know your partners or not, a threesome can always be risky, so always think about protecting yourself.

Is our couple solid enough?

The solidity of your couple is an essential criterion. You must have an excellent level of complicity with your partner. Do not forget that the goal is to increase the pleasure of both, not just one of the two!

The idea of sharing his partner with another, for most men, is difficult to accept. Also take into account the homosexual dimension given by the presence of another man, which could be perceived badly by your partner. Finally, don't underestimate the fact that he might feel annoyed about having to deal with a potential opponent, especially when it comes to the size of his sex.

Why can it be exciting?

You could push the limits of your erotic horizons further! Making love in threes allows you to get out of your body, multiply the pleasure and erase sexual and emotional identities: man-woman, man-man, loved and unknown.

- Several fantasies are staged at the same time: homosexual or bisexual fantasy (as far as your partner is concerned), voyeurism, betrayal, exhibitionism. The triangle also allows an exciting form of depersonalization, as opposed to what happens in the couple. Without forgetting the simple pleasure of transgressing the rules of love.

- Rekindle the flame of desire within the couple: your man wants you even more if he sees you making love with another. And, from a practical point of view, the four-hand massage is super exciting, as is blindfolding one of the two partners. For the rest, let yourself be guided by pleasure!

It is a catastrophe: why?

The triangle, by nature, is unbalanced. To manage it in the best way, you need to make yourself available to both partners. If you are in a couple, the most delicate thing is to make sure that your partner does not feel left on the sidelines, exchanging signs of complicity with him. In fact, it is not uncommon for couples to underestimate the reactions of jealousy and possessiveness. Your man may feel betrayed and less wanted than the newcomer. But the malaise can also come from you: doubts about his fidelity or his sexual identity, seeing him aroused by the presence of a man. In any case, the triangle can reveal or cause dangerous fractures in a couple, if the trust is not complete.

And then?

The goal is to discover new sensations. Therefore, it is not a question of having feelings for the guest, much less imagining a "menage à trois"! However, if you wish, nothing prevents you from repeating this experience.