Love disappointment: 7 tips to overcome it
"It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved."
Alfred Tennyson
In life, unfortunately, there are many disappointments. At work, in the ambit of friendships and love is no exception. This feeling, as beautiful as it is complex, brings with it strong emotions, wonderful moments and unforgettable sensations, but also disappointments. You can experience a disappointment of love for the most varied reasons: from betrayal to the incompatibility of values, character and goals for the future to an unrequited feeling. Or, simply, we are disappointed because we realize that the person we had by our side, in reality, was not the right one. Whatever the motivation, a disappointment in love hurts, and even a lot. There are even those who compare it to the pain experienced by bereavement.
Getting out of those months of sadness is not easy, but with some precautions everyone can do it. We suggest you follow these 7 steps to get back to being happy and say yes to love again. In this path of "rebirth" remember that showing your emotions is not bad, quite the contrary. Let go, cry and throw out the sadness they help exorcise pain and come to terms with reality.
1. Let the other person go
"And that a hundred thousand have been disappointed, does it diminish the pain of those who are disappointed?"
Cesare Pavese
Whatever the reason that led to the termination of your relationship, perhaps lasting years, the first piece of advice we give you is to let your partner go. If the love is over, persisting in being together is a pain for both of you, besides the fact that it could become a real obsession for you to try to win it back or find another solution. Then, you may not have to see it again in the future. Once you have overcome the initial disappointment and pain, you may also clarify yourself better in less hateful and resentful terms, but now is not the time. Try forgetting and letting go of the people who turned out to be wrong for you.
2. Release your emotions
"Disappointments in love, even betrayals and abandonments, serve the soul at the very moment in which they seem to be tragedies in our life. The soul is partly in time and partly in eternity. We should remember the part that resides in eternity when we feel desperation for the part that is in life ".
Thomas Moore
Forgetting your partner is not only not easy due to the effort it takes, but it turns out to be an extremely painful act. It is here, in the midst of suffering, that you could choose to block all kinds of emotions, go on with your life as usual and pretend to be happy. However, this decision will only postpone the inevitable. Venting and throwing out all the sadness of a disappointment in love are two fundamental actions if you want to get better. So, let yourself go: cry, let out your tears, don't be afraid to face sadness, and give yourself all the time you need to come to terms with ending your relationship. In fact, to get out of a disappointment in love, there is no specific time limit. It could take a few weeks as well as a couple of months. There is no rush, respect your times to try to feel good again.
3. Engage in recreational activities
"Disappointment is for a noble soul what cold water is for incandescent metal; it strengthens, intensifies, but never destroys ».
Eliza Tabor Stephenson
After you have released your tears and pain, it is time for the stage to arrive when you should start taking care of yourself again. Whatever your hobbies are, this is the right time to practice them. Reading a book in the tranquility of your own home, painting, doing DIY or playing an instrument are all activities that keep your mind busy and distract you from the painful love pain, just what you need.
Then, we recommend that you accompany your hobbies or give yourself a few hours of relaxation while listening to music. In fact, music has a therapeutic role in moments of sadness and helps to relax. We suggest you listen to any musical genre, including the most melancholic ballads. It may seem counterproductive, but listening to love songs that talk about disappointment can be your "guide" and see your story from a "different perspective.
4. Play sports
"I still don't know if it's hurting me or making me stronger."
Anonymous
Physical activity is an excellent ally to fight a disappointment of love. Playing sports increases endorphins and releases adrenaline in the body. This chemical substance of the organism and these hormones help to defeat pain and sadness, giving way to a new flow of energy and positivity. There are those who prefer sports in which they can release anger and frustration such as boxing, running or a weights session in the gym. Instead, other people prefer activities that combine physical and mental exercise, perfect for relaxing body and mind. These are yoga, pilates or meditation.Whatever sport you choose, you will soon see the beneficial effects on your mood and also on your figure.
5. Start something new
"In twenty years you will not be disappointed with the things you have done, but with those you have not done".
Mark Twain
Within a couple, it is normal for habits and a daily routine to be established. Being together also means accepting to compromise with the partner and perhaps having to give up something in favor of the other person. Following a disappointment of love, all this disappears, you are free to partially break with the routine you followed previously and to give up anything. To do so, start something new. or a change of look you've always wanted, now is the time to put them into action.
Then, a great way to say goodbye to the past is to revolutionize the interior of the house: there is nothing worse than returning to your home and finding an environment that you remember in all respects your former partner. Put away, at least for the first few months, his things and make all traces of him disappear. In this way, you can start from small changes, such as replacing cushions or various accessories, up to significant changes such as changing the arrangement of the furniture or the color of the interior.
6. Surround yourself with friends
“I need to clarify, I need to explain.
Are you okay if we meet at nine?
Where are we?
In your disappointment or in mine? "
Fabrizio Caramagna
As in all difficult moments, even to overcome a disappointment of love we need friends and the people we care about most. During your first chat, it will be normal to want to talk only about the termination of your relationship or how yours began. relationship breakdown, but try not to make these topics the only reasons to talk to your friends. Don't be afraid to accept their opinion on your story, but also try to get distracted by them and give yourself a laugh in If at first it seems difficult to abandon yourself to the joy that surrounds you, you will see that after a short time it will appear natural to you and you will rediscover the pleasure of smiling openly.
7. Forgive
«To hope means to risk disappointment. But the risk must be faced because the greatest risk in life is never to risk ».
Anonymous
You went through the first phase, the most painful, and the second, where you found that you could move on with your life. However, to definitively close this chapter of your story and put an end to the pain caused by disappointment, you need to know how to forgive. This step may seem simple to take, but in reality it requires great fortitude. Setting aside the conflicts, suffering and anger is essential because only in this way will you be ready to start a new period in your life. Remember, resentment is not never leads to anything! When you are sure you are better, look for a confrontation with your ex partner, ask him how he is, understand his perspective and both put away the hatred forever. Now you can say that you have truly come out of your disappointment in love. Happy new start!
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