HOW GOOD IS IT TO WANT TO BE ALONE EVEN IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP?

At first, everything is done to spend every possible moment together. The world, without sharing it with his gaze, seems less interesting. "See you tomorrow at seven in the morning before work?" - "Sure!". Interested in seeing a really boring movie? Decidedly! Do you want to go to a party with a group of strangers? With him obvious! Eventually this thirst for company dissipates, is transformed, and the only thing sweeter than being together, moments of solitude become. But how healthy is it to want to be alone? You will not run the risk of wanting to be so free that you lose sight the relationship? Could this need for independence be a threat to your partner? Or maybe you no longer feel what you did before for him?
In short, you cannot have the same enthusiasm of the first times forever, crazy like this:

But also by detaching oneself and finding daily habits in the relationship, one can continue to feel enthusiasm for moments together precisely because moments of solitude are protected. In short, the key is to find the balance, let's see together how:

1. Don't be afraid of loneliness

The main fear of when you start to detach is precisely in the realization that a change is taking place both in you and in your partner. Not only do you not have to be frightened by your need to have moments for yourself: whether they are alone in the room, with your friends on a shopping spree, one evening dancing with co-workers and the like. You also need to understand the moments of loneliness your him might need. Neither of them wants to leave the other, but only to discover themselves in new experiences that strengthen you as individuals, nothing more stimulating for a couple, which until proven otherwise is always made up of two INDIVIDUALS who CHOOSE to share things together. Think about how much more you will have to tell him later, and vice versa.

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2. Talk to your partner about it

In moments when you communicate that you want to do things alone, it can happen to you if he is too available, or to your partner if you feel distant, to have negative thoughts or have doubts, jealousies and get into paranoia. Deciding to break away can become a kind of rejection for a partner. How to avoid misunderstandings, even with yourself? To communicate. Be clear about what you need. Every now and then, it's good to do something alone for yourself and not for the couple.
Talk to him and always maintain a connection between you, make this loneliness become a reason for respect for your true needs. While you don't need to tell your partner what you are doing all the time, you build a communication or connection bridge and banish the fear of losing it. You too will appreciate yourself and him more.

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3. Analyze your needs

If being alone becomes a "total need, then it clearly means that life as a couple is no longer for you. If everything you do with him weighs you down, if every moment you want to be without him, you should face the crisis in your relationship is in. But if instead this need is limited to the need to feel independent, strong, free and more aware - and it stops at times of the day or week that are enough for you, because then you can't wait to find your him - then it's simple: you are only human. A good self-analysis is the winning weapon, almost always.

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Overall, the safety of your relationship shouldn't be tied to the amount of time you spend together. Your partner will probably not be offended if you can make him understand why you would like to spend time alone, it means that then he too will have his moment: more awaited, more intense, and maybe hotter for both of you! ... to some position with him "rewarding" him for his understanding