Tinder: 10 Tips for Succeeding on the Dating App
Swipe, swipe, match! Never before has it been so easy to meet again. Nowadays there is hardly anyone who doesn't have a story to tell about their Tinder experience. Be it the ex-classmate who has rediscovered himself. on the app, the Spanish native who showed you the most secret corners of Madrid or the man of dreams you have very important feelings for, Tinder really offers many opportunities.
Did you just sign up for Tinder? We have some tips just for you to be successful on the most popular dating app.
1. Pictures say more than words
Yes, the dear profile photo. Here you can pull the first ace out of your sleeve. Claudia, employee of feminine, advises: "Better not to use a" image with tons of makeup or with a very obvious filter. After all, that's not you. Too many pictures aren't always useful either - three good portraits are enough. Obviously you shouldn't put photos with your best friends because the "attention must" be focused on you ".
“I usually use images that are directly useful for starting a conversation. For example, I had a picture on vacation with a surfboard and I wrote in the description "every second there is another chance", that is to say "every second c" is an "other possibility". That way I could start a conversation about my hobby and no one had to start with a boring one "He how are you?"».
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2. No surprises even in terms of height
Sooner or later the little cheats are discovered. So, one should be honest about age, height, looks
and all the rest. Our colleague Diana advises: "Even if it sounds a bit trite, I think it's good for people to write their height directly in their profile. The question of height is one of the most annoying questions in chat, but if you are a girl of 1.80 m like me, if you come on a date with a man too shorter you may feel uncomfortable. "
3. Simple and concise over a coffee
Sometimes, doing less works better than doing too much. Also for Alba this is useful advice: «I am always in favor of not writing too long in chat. My motto is to be short and concise. It is most effective if you just meet for coffee - then you notice much more quickly whether the chemistry is right or not. I've met some interesting people before - the most exciting and fun conversations really happen in no time! "
4. Every start should be exciting
Anyone can type "He how are you?". Be creative - the guy of your dreams will discover you much faster. Secret tip from the collaborator of feminine Marie: “You don't need to start with a question or text. Sometimes even a funny message or just some emojis is enough to intrigue the other person. In this way you are guaranteed to get noticed and be remembered ».
For example, Marie posted a nice Gif starring Magnum aka Tom Selleck with his flirtatious look. At that point, the guy from her "match" sent a Gif with Beyoncé while she was dancing. From there they started talking very easily and the conversation flowed smoothly.
5. Let yourself be discovered
Meeting new people is always very exciting. Your counterpart thinks the same as you. So make him curious about your personality. Our colleague Sara explains: “There are people who write to you about anything without a filter. This usually makes me uncomfortable. So my advice is not to tell him the whole story of your life directly in the first chat. Firstly, because he won't even be able to argue and then because it's wiser to just give him some information about preferences or hobbies to intrigue him, instead of telling him everything about you in detail. If it is a meeting, you still have enough time to get to know each other better. The chat is just to check if the chemistry between you is right. Everything else follows when you see each other live ».
6. A little research is helpful
If you have some characteristics in common and the other person also finds you interesting, you should still prepare a little before writing to them. Take a look at his profile. What does he write about himself? Most of the time it's a lot easier to start the conversation like that if you have a difficulty. It can even be just a common passion for long-distance travel or whatever.
Our colleague Gaia says, “If my counterpart can't think of anything better than a "Hello", I usually don't react at all. Then I think to myself: "He's writing this to ten other girls at the same time." But when I realize that he looked at my profile before writing to me, it's a different story. "
7. Not a trivial appointment
It's okay if the guy you're chatting with meets other people. It's not that bad after all, there's still nothing binding and you just need to know each other. However, you have to try to strike to stay etched in her memory. feminine: «I think it's great when matches suggest guys who want more than just 'go for a coffee'. Someone once spontaneously invited me to bake some cookies and even though it turned out to be just friends, it was one of the best dates I've ever had! But also as a woman you should be brave and creative when it comes to the first date. "
8. No interrogation!
However, you shouldn't let yourself go completely immediately with the first contact, perhaps by sending him an innumerable amount of messages. Laura advises: "I don't think it would be so good if you were bombarded with a thousand questions in chat right at the beginning." What work do you do, where do you live, what are you looking for in life? "Being questioned like this is really exhausting. An original conversation. it is often much better to find out if you are on the same wavelength. For example, I once had a long talk with a guy from the saga of Lord of the Rings after we realized we're both big fans. It was really fun. '
9. Beware of uncomfortable topics
Especially at the beginning, when you barely know each other, there are also a number of topics to avoid for the moment. For example the "topic"other dates on Tinder". Laura also tells us how absolutely useless it is:" Talking about other women is my absolute inhibition. I once met a guy and he told me right away how bad the girl he had dated before was. This makes me have a negative reputation on my interlocutor. It's much better to have a neutral conversation and pay some compliments, without bringing up other people. '
10. Much more than dating and flirting
If you think of Tinder as just a dating app for love purposes, you are very wrong. There is a lot more to find on Tinder. For example, the perfect tour guide. Nadine, a colleague of ours, suggests to all people who want to travel: «Tinder is very practical if you travel, perhaps in cities where you don't know anyone. Through the chat you can get advice from the locals.
I was once on vacation with friends in Tenerife and after going to a horrible tourist spot on the first night, we took the advice of a local guy I met on Tinder. Thus, on the second night we discovered an area with very trendy bars and restaurants, where we celebrated half the night with the locals. It was worth it."
