Female pleasure: 20 questions and answers to understand how it works
Sexual pleasure is the discovery that all teenagers aspire to. But later even adult women find themselves displaced by sexuality, for lack of information or points of reference. And it is difficult to talk to those around us about intimate matters ... So there are many shadow areas or false myths about female pleasure, which we will try to debunk or deepen here to experience sexuality in a more free and pleasant way.
Before proceeding, here is a video that suggests erotic practices to experiment with your boyfriend to increase your pleasure ...
The technical issues
Sexual pleasure is an emotion, but to get there there is a physical, technical and bodily basis. For pleasure to be simple and natural, you need to know your body and its functioning well, to feel reassured, to understand it and to make it vibrate to the better!
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How do you know if you have an orgasm?
Orgasm is manifested by a very strong sensation of tension that explodes brutally. Orgasm is accompanied by involuntary rhythmic contractions of the vagina muscles and a sensation of pleasure.
How many contractions do you feel at the time of orgasm?
Between 3 and 12 vaginal contractions. The more the initial excitement and the stronger the pleasure, the more numerous the contractions will be. The first contractions are strong and close together, then they become less intense and frequent.
Is it true that there is vaginal pleasure and clitoral pleasure?
The sexual pleasure of orgasm is always vaginal because an orgasm, be it vaginal or clitoral, always expresses itself with involuntary and rhythmic contractions of the vagina. So now specialists tend to talk about orgasm of vaginal origin or orgasm of clothorid origin. pleasure that comes from the clitoris in general is more explosive, and what comes from the vagina is more diffuse and deeper.
Is it true that there are pleasure points such as the G-spot?
More than points, we should talk about areas of pleasure. The G-spot is not a point, but an "area of several square centimeters. Of course the clitoris is another" pleasure area, like other areas inside the vagina, which vary according to women: for some the most sensitive areas are at the bottom, for others on the side, for still others at the entrance to the vagina. We are not all made with the same mold!
Are there positions in women that are more conducive to sexual pleasure?
It is often observed that the position that causes the most pleasure is that of the Amazon: the man is supine and the woman is sitting on him. So it is she who controls the movements, the inclination, the rhythm, the depth ... "choose the one that gives her the most pleasure. But be careful because the woman must feel comfortable in this position, so that everything goes well! In fact it is not just a mechanical matter! Certain positions are exciting as they are mentally more erotic ...
I reach orgasm in one position only. What should I do?
You don't have to do anything special! It is very common for orgasms to come on only one path. It depends on what the body has experienced as pleasure experiences. However, you can experiment with other positions, to discover new pleasures… and maybe one day the body will decide to take new paths to the seventh heaven.
Can the pill "have a negative" impact on pleasure?
Usually not, or indirectly. In fact, certain pills decrease the desire. And since the desire is less, the pleasure is less easy to obtain! But the pill has no special influence on the actual orgasm reflex.
Does the condom decrease the pleasure felt?
Yes. Especially for the man whose glans, the most sensitive area of the penis, will lose some of the very pleasant sensations derived from rubbing directly against the walls of the vagina. Condom lubrication can annoy, if the natural lubrication is already good. quality. When the penis slips too much, the sensations can be less strong! But the condom gives security. So, despite the small inconveniences, making love with a condom remains a great pleasure!
Should You Avoid Making Love During Menstruation?
There are no health reasons to avoid making love during menstruation. The only drawback is that STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) are transmitted more easily, so it is imperative to use a condom if you have not been tested for AIDS! During menstruation the pleasure experienced is the same as at any other period of the cycle. Indeed, some women feel even more desire and pleasure!
Does a woman who is enjoying necessarily cry out?
Absolutely not. A very violent orgasm can "be completely silent! And vice versa: a woman can" scream very loud without being in full orgasm. Screaming is not systematically related to orgasm!
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The relationship-emotion issues
Two people are involved in sexual pleasure. The relationship with the partner, the emotions felt greatly influence the quality of pleasure. And since it is often difficult to understand what happens in oneself on an emotional level, here are the answers to the questions about sexual emotional feelings.
My partner reaches rogasm much faster than I. Why such a difference?
Usually a man reaches orgasm first because it is in the nature of his functioning. But you have to know that the faster his pleasure the more superficial it is. Female pleasure is generally deeper, but slower to explode. And, in order for him too to experience deeper pleasure, he must learn not to be in a hurry. Teach him to slow down, both for your pleasure and for his.
I reach orgasm by myself, masturbating, but not with my partner. Why?
Both men and women reach orgasm more easily and quickly through masturbation. In fact, everyone knows which movements, pressures, speeds, positions to adopt to facilitate their orgasm. On average it takes 3 minutes to get an orgasm through self-eroticism and many more by making love. Improving the pleasure in 2 is learned, especially by communicating. The ideal is to help your partner discover "the recipe" that will take you both to seventh heaven!
I feel pleasure, but I find that the orgasm is not as extraordinary as they say! I'm normal?
Often, at the beginning of sexual life one can be disappointed by the pleasure experienced. In fact, unlike what you read and see in the movies, everything seems less strong! It is normal, as pleasure is discovered and developed with experience. The essential thing is to learn how to cultivate the pleasure you feel by letting it become wider and wider. In addition, the orgasm is sometimes explosive, other times it is more nuanced, but no less pleasant. Precisely for this reason it is interesting: it is always different!
The stronger the desire, the greater the pleasure?
Sometimes, but not necessarily! It is logical to think that a strong desire will push the pleasure higher. But the feelings and emotions are capricious. You may experience intense pleasure even if the initial desire was weak. It depends on how much you can abandon yourself to the sensations!
Do you have to be in love to feel more pleasure?
Yes and no! Yes, because when you are in love the intensity of the emotions is multiplied by 10! No, because even without being in love with them you can feel at ease with a man. Sometimes the less you risk (will I be "good"? Loves me how much I love him? ... the more the pleasure becomes simple and natural. But many women feel that it is impossible for them to "make love without loving"!
Why am I forced to imagine erotic scenes to enhance the pleasure?
It is normal to have erotic fantasies. On the other hand, the most common fantasy is simply erotic anticipation: imagine what you will be able to do with your partner, kisses, caresses ... Erotic fantasies about your partner allow you to feel them closer, more involved in our desires.
Are orgasm and pleasure the same thing?
No. Orgasm is a physical reflex. It is usually accompanied by strong pleasure, but not always. And vice versa, many women experience intense pleasure without it necessarily leading them to orgasm.
We can't have a simultaneous orgasm. How to do?
Only a third of couples have a simultaneous orgasm every now and then. It's nice, but simultaneous orgasm itself doesn't have to be a goal. Sexologists think unsynchronized orgasm is most appreciated. Because? Because in this way you can participate and really take advantage of the pleasure of the other! Instead reaching
at the same time the orgasm is both in parallel paradises.
Sometimes reaching orgasm makes me want to cry. It seems strange. What is happening?
It is a fairly frequent reaction! Crying is simply the manifestation of the emotional upheaval you are experiencing. It happens especially when the pleasure is intense. Some people instead of crying burst out laughing! Orgasm is a tension that, when it explodes abruptly, causes a cry that has nothing to do with sadness.
I have the impression that he gives me more pleasure than I give him. How to restore the balance?
Many selfless men and women have this impression! Amazed by the pleasure, they think that for the other it could not have been so beautiful! But they are wrong. If you feel a lot of pleasure it is certainly because your partner is feeling it too. You don't have to change anything. Just express all the fulfillment you feel. It is the best gift you can give him.
