Remorse and regret: is there really a lot of difference between these two feelings?
Remorse and regret are two different moods but not so distant. They are sensations difficult to metabolize and above all it is not so easy and obvious to know what is better or worse between the two. Talking about them, as in all things, can be important: there are things you can only tell a friend who is ready to understand and understand you! Watch the video and discover the things not to hide from your best friend!
Remorse and Regret: What Hurts the Most?
You can regret a love, youth, the joy of life of the past, of not having grabbed the right opportunity to be happy, of not having seized the fleeting moment. Or you can feel remorse for not having given the best of yourself to someone who is no longer there, for having hurt those who loved us. Remorse can be more painful than regret, because while the second only makes you suffer, the second comes from having made others suffer and conditioned their lives. Remorse is an endless torment that cannot leave you, because you cannot go back so as not to make mistakes; regret is a nostalgia for something you have not achieved or had, but it does not take away the joy of other beautiful things. But between remorse and regret, between continually biting one's heart and crying and crying again, there is a special connection: if you have remorse for having made a mistake, for not having been as you would like to be, better, up to your role and of one's humanity, there is at the same time the regret of having wasted that moment instead of living it in the best way without ruining one's self-esteem and sometimes one's life. If you have remorse, you also regret not having lived those moments differently and having wasted them without thinking too much about it.
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Is remorse better than regret?
Even repentance indicates regret for a gesture, an "action or words that we would never want to have said, but compared to remorse it has more to do with the sphere of ethics. Speaking of regret, we can say that pain arises from not having done what had to be done, having lost opportunities or people, neglecting them for superficiality and this also involves remorse towards oneself or towards others. Regret has less pain inside, more resigned bitterness than having done that that you wanted to make or in any case that you made the wrong choice Many say that remorse is better than regret.But it is not an axiom that applies to everyone. First of all, our duty is to choose and not to let ourselves be chosen by impulses, emotions, at the cost of harsh consequences for us and for others.
Choosing and taking responsibility for one's choices is a sign of maturity, being chosen guided by irrational impulses is a weakness a decision of the gut and not of the brain, which is paid sooner or later with remorse or regret it does not matter, but sure with suffering ours and those close to us. Regrets are like an autumn breeze that saddens us, but it doesn't hurt us so much; remorse is a blanket of snow and frost that overwhelms us and makes walking difficult. Undoubtedly, to live the present to the fullest, one should not always have an eye to the past and accept it as it is, with mistakes, unfulfilled desires, our faults and our merits. Do not seek perfection, but perfectibility and be better with each passing day.
