Apologizing: How to use the right phrases
How many times has it happened to us to apologize with the best of intentions but without getting real results? Apologizing is important but doing it in the right way is essential to mend relationships and erase the trace of the quarrel or misunderstanding. There are so many ways to apologize, some of the ways to apologize are truly spectacular and always have the desired answer!
- · When and how to apologize
- · When is an excuse right? And how useful can it be?
- · Apologize: where to start
- · Some important tips to apologize in the right way
- · Tailor-made excuses
- · What happens when you apologize
- · A letter to apologize
When and how to apologize
If you have made a mistake towards a good friend, a family member, a partner, a person you like or even an acquaintance or why not a stranger, apologizing is a duty. It is a small but very valuable gesture that allows you to repair the damage and cancel the resentment in the other person (at least hopefully) for the wrong suffered. It's a reward from the wrong and it's up to you - are you really ready to do it?
Sometimes it is difficult to find the right words to apologize but it is necessary to ensure that the relationship restarts without being compromised by the mistake. Maybe it has happened to you: when you apologize to your friends, the friendship comes back stronger than before, you feel more united than ever! You will feel good and this thing of finding a friend and recovering a friendship can make you so happy and cheerful as you have not been for a long time.
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When is an excuse right? And how useful can it be?
A well-made excuse must contain fundamental elements: the repentance of those who have committed the wrong, their willingness to remedy the damage and must also show a sense of responsibility and awareness.
Because apologizing, in itself, is useless if you don't show that you believe in it and have learned your lesson. Formal apologies, for example, are not motivated by an authentic feeling and for this reason they are a duty that in fact serves no purpose.As well as those who apologize repeatedly and monotonously, show that they have an ulterior motive and a lot of haste and not the real awareness of the mistake made. A "I'm sorry" even if felt and suffered is not enough to compensate for the error because it does not take into account one's active role, does not show awareness of having made a mistake or the will not to make mistakes again. This is an excuse heard a thousand times and then that you are sorry is really too little!
Apologize: where to start
If you have made a mistake and you are aware of it, give up the idea of being right. This is the first step to stop arguing and move on to phase 2, that of apologies. Change your perspective and put yourself in the other person's shoes: what would you like to hear ? What kind of apologies would you like? By continuing to read, you will learn which sentence to apologize with and what are the sentences to avoid in order to offer your apologies in an honest, effective and transparent way, optimizing your chance of getting the forgiveness you like so much. of the person you hurt.
Some important tips to apologize in the right way
First, if you need to apologize, speak firsthand. Begin your sentence with "I": it means that you accept your faults and your responsibility and then yes this excuse will have the desired effect! If you start the sentence with you, you are already preparing your interlocutor badly. Concentrate on what you have done, understanding your mistakes is also the best guarantee that you will not repeat them. Don't justify yourself, don't find external justifications. It is normal behavior but it is not healthy and it is not sincere: are you wrong? Taking your responsibilities, you will demonstrate enviable reliability and inspire trust. Never be generic and don't use generic words, like "it was an accident". Always remember that those who have been hurt by your favorite behavior receive an apology rather than a simple sentence of excuse. There is one thing to avoid in any case when you apologize is the conjunction "but".In fact, you would give the impression of taking the blame, but only half of it, of having important mitigating circumstances, of being responsible but not entirely in short, and you would only risk annoying those in front of you without getting anything. With a "but" you apologize and then withdraw and the injured person stops listening to you. The words you use to apologize to the interlocutors are important: do not leave out any details!
Tailor-made excuses
If you have made a mistake, if you have hurt a family member, colleague or friend and now you need to apologize, always consider the person in front of you and their character. Apologies are among the most important things to communicate. There are people who prefer straightforward and targeted excuses, others more touchy who need to feel compensated for the damage in some way and still others (especially in the case of serious mistakes) who want to be reassured that they can still trust you.
Only by considering the type of mistake you have made and the personality of the person you have hurt in spite of yourself can you truly obtain forgiveness.
What happens when you apologize
Apologizing to someone is helpful in undoing the damage done and making the person you hurt feel better. There is also a secondary effect, which is not negligible: the one that by apologizing will make you feel better too! You will immediately notice that anger subsides, tempers calm down, you will feel more at peace with yourself and again confident about interpersonal relationships and things in life. Obviously then it depends on the response you receive, whether the apologies are accepted or not, but having already made them has a great value. At work, as in private life, with friends, knowing how to apologize and obtain forgiveness is important and is a virtue: it is a gesture that you like and that means maturity and self-esteem and leads you to be loved and appreciated in every environment!
A letter to apologize
If you have a hard time expressing your feelings and prefer to entrust your apology to a sheet of paper, you can opt for a written apology. In this case, don't write hasty words but take your time to clarify your feelings. Put emotions aside for a moment, the sheet of paper allows you not to be impulsive, not to get carried away by passion and not to be hasty. This letter will somewhat amaze the person you hurt: try to be sincere and clear, you will surely be appreciated as it is not every day that you receive an apology letter!
