Relationships in 5 steps: only if you can overcome the 3rd is true love!
Love is not made of simplicity. And this is because we are not simple beings: we are complex and a lot. Accepting our complexity is very difficult, sharing it is tiring and accepting the complexity of another is an act of love. We do it when we believe in a project, when we want a partner next to us, when there is something to build. But to have a solid foundation, a relationship must pass several steps, a research has identified 5.It is not always possible to finish after the third, and this is because it is there that the climb begins.
In this video, a couple tells you what we mean by "embracing the complexity of the" other, see:
1. Falling in love
Chemistry works in our favor. We are attracted to the "other" which suddenly becomes our obsession: a constant source of joy, happiness and novelty. We project our idea of relationship onto the other, and we see good everything that was not given to us, instead, in the previous relationship. We discover with the other unprecedented sides of ourselves, we fall in love with life, making love is beautiful and we dedicate ourselves to fellatio like never before: it is the first stage, falling in love.
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2. The couple
Falling in love leads us to form a couple, and we don't want to let it slip away. In this phase of enthusiasm, fights also begin, but what prevails is the feeling of protection. Life as a couple absorbs us, and even if the passion of the first stage is attenuated, we remain tied to the safety of life as a couple: we believe we have reached the maximum stage of love and we do not expect anything else. Instead the real climb is coming.
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3. Disillusionment
Everything bores us, it seems trivial. The decrease in desire makes us feel unloved, we feel trapped. Where is the person we were in love with? Where is our life as a couple? And shouldn't we deserve much more than that? closure Facing this stage forces us to confront ourselves, because psychological malaise often, in this phase, is associated with physical malaise.This is the real moment to question ourselves.
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4. The new foundation
If we can get through the third stage, then the person who stays with us really becomes an accomplice. We question ourselves in two, doors that seemed to be locked open, we face sorrows and we begin to collaborate. The true foundations for loving with an open heart and without screens or schemes, the person who has remained beside us, despite everything. This is the real achievement. And we also return to making love, with a new passion and new awareness.
5. The fortress
The safe harbor is built there, the fortress from which other life challenges can be faced, with an accomplice. And not only that, by loving someone in this way, we can feel solid in relating also with those around us, with an extra gear. We dedicate ourselves to a common good, to improve the things that have conditioned us. Love is given in two to what is outside us, and to the fortress that, with so much effort, we have built.
True love doesn't end at the third stage, that's where it really begins.
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