The secret of a lasting relationship? It's more "boring" than you think!
Can we imagine a relationship made up of only outbursts of love, crazy adventures and continuous twists? We imagine that it would be a great effort, and perhaps a continuous stress, contrary to what fairy tales teach us. How to make a relationship then lasting and guaranteeing a story like the one on video?
Because boredom solidifies the relationship
As Leopardi said, "only intelligent beings feel bored", and we like to think that we are (intelligent) and that we are capable not only of experiencing the boredom and banality of everyday life, but also of knowing how to share it. It would be very easy to judge a relationship from the first months of passion and adventures, it is in the time and in the boredom of the simple things to live day by day that the relationship really weighs. According to Mark Manson, writer and author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F ** k, boredom is the key to lasting relationships.
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If by boredom we mean that instead of skydiving we choose to do our laundry together, or that instead of an impromptu weekend in Paris, we spend two whole days at home, we are not talking about anything unusual. It would be too easy to make something work that is always exciting, but also so close to reality. Isn't it in everyday life that a relationship really puts itself to the test? Well, everyday life is made up of responsibility, repetitiveness and often boredom. Test your relationship with simplicity: a weekend of TV, sofa, dishes to wash and TV series. How would it end?
Boredom is not synonymous with reclining
Be careful though! Yes, boredom, but you don't have to settle down too much. Against the decline of desire, organize some spicy surprises, a journey that stimulates sharing, experiences that renew emotions together, in short ... knowing how to live does not have to mean having to get used to and let it all go. That middle ground without ever settling down, the pinch of pepper that doesn't make the dish dull
Daily boredom? Here, perhaps in this way the shower would always be a trivial daily action but, perhaps, shared it could be less boring than usual, look:
