The love-friendship border
1) Make it clear what you feel
Confirming or not these phrases to better define your own feelings and understand those of the other ...
• Is it love if ...
- You feel a physical desire for each other
- You begin to project yourself into the future with this person
- You feel that you would like to go beyond the friend / friend stage
- You are more and more jealous of his conquests or of the women he likes
- You ask him what he does when you are not together
- You systematically criticize all girls who pass within 100 meters of him!
- You find yourself paying more attention to your look, and makeup, when you see it
- You find excuses to call him, to see him, to physically get close to him
- You try more and more to seduce him
- You lie when a friend of yours asks you if she is single ...
• It is friendship if ...
- You disgust the idea of being naked in bed together
- Sign up for a speed dating together
- Imagine him as the godfather of your children
- You objectively give him your opinion on his achievements
- Make friends with the girls he's dating
- You don't get hysterical if you don't reply to your text immediately
- Ask him for advice on seducing potential prey
- You agree to receive him in your home in grandmother's pajamas, with a clay mask on his face and all disheveled
- You want him to meet a good girl and don't hesitate to introduce him to friends
- You forgive him easily if he is late, if he forgets your birthday or if he wears loafers with white socks.
2) The options to contemplate ...
Do you both feel friendship? No problem and good life!
Do you have the impression that one of the two is starting to have a different feeling and that "Love is in the air"? Attention, we must act ...
• Think carefully about the possible consequences
- Unfortunately, it happens that there is no reciprocity of feelings. One of the two will suffer more than the other, the friendship risks cracking and this revelation can cause discomfort.
- If the feelings are mutual, it is good news and you can start a love story. But be careful, your love story can end badly and, with it, your friendship, losing your lover and friend at once. Don't give in if you're not sure what you're feeling.
• Avoid ambiguity
If you are sure that yours is just friendship and you don't want to create misunderstandings, avoid ambiguous situations.
Try to avoid situations that could degenerate: evenings alone drinking, relaxing massages, small seduction games to feel sexy ...
• Let's be clear
If you feel your friendship is changing and you want your relationship to evolve, you need to communicate! Clearly express what you feel and ask the other to put his cards on the table. Knowing that you risk being rejected. If, on the other hand, you feel that your friend is starting to fall in love with you, don't make fun of him and let him know that you see him more as a brother than as a lover.
• Find the right distance
If love is not shared, one must protect oneself or protect the other. Decrease the frequency of phone calls, confidences, don't go out systematically together, meet new people ...
It often happens that one feels momentarily attracted to a person because of complicity and a situation of prolonged loneliness. These simple measures allow you to set the record straight in order to quickly return to a normal situation. There is no point in ruining this beautiful relationship, unless you suffer too much.
