Why with the love of our life does not last and we choose the other?
We fall madly in love, we question our life and perhaps ourselves in everything, we sign the "forever" in our heart but then, for reasons stronger than what we feel, that relationship ends. Perhaps precisely because it ends it becomes unforgettable. There are at least 3 reasons why what remains for us the love of life is not the love of life. It is worth discovering them, because accepting the end of these crazy loves means appreciating the secret of "forever" more. Look here for an example of love started in a crazy way
1. Falling in love is not loving
Falling in love madly, overwhelmed by wild passion, is very different from loving. Loving includes a series of details, sometimes unpleasant, which however define the complexity of the relationship. Falling in love, being moved by great things leaves an indelible mark, perhaps more sensational than striving love, made up of small gestures, sacrifice. Falling in love ends and love takes over. If you can't fight to build a fortress at first foundations, then that "love" forever "remains there abandoned. It is covered with leaves and thorns, a ruin that will never cease to have charm on our memories, but which remains so. This does not mean that it has less value than everything you will choose later, on the contrary. But it does not detract from the fact that it was not enough to be that "forever".
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2. Life cannot be controlled
It is not enough to love each other, to believe that it is forever, to build something real and important: life sometimes has other plans in store for you. Uncontrollable, we do not know which road we will find ourselves in. Distance, drastic choices, scene changes ... we can't control almost anything at all, and what remains is "forever". Sometimes it is a void, other times we manage to fill it with ourselves or with someone who is worth enough that place we had assigned to another. Everything is in choosing life.
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3. The value of compromise
Perhaps we will love that man forever, but we have found something else, and perhaps that is something else we really need. The compromises we are willing to give in to be truly peaceful don't necessarily have to do with love. Sometimes we want to be protected, we want to be loved more than to love, we want to guarantee a family for our future, we want more stability for ourselves, we want to stop being teenagers and live the life we imagine for ourselves. It is not always what love brings with it, so unpredictable and so little taken for granted, so we give up that path for a more similar one to the one that basically, and let's not deny it, it is what we really desire. Because perhaps love for always does not really exist, and when we accept it, it is then that we find it: in ourselves for ourselves, in the moments when someone chooses to stay with you, despite everything, and in the confrontation with reality that asks you to know how to accept compromises .
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