Bondage: what this BDSM practice is and how to explore it with your partner
"Bondage" is an English word that derives from the verb "to bond", that is "to tie", "to constrain": in Italian it is often translated as "schiavitù". Bondage, in fact, is a sexual practice that became very famous after the boom of the "50 Shades of Gray" (book and film) which is based precisely on the submission of a sexual partner, who agrees to limit their physical freedom, movement and speech. in order to satisfy the other, the "dominator".
The practice of bondage is part of BDSM (acronym for Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism), which brings together numerous erotic practices united by the common fil rouge of the "slavery" of one of the partners, dominated by the other. These erotic games are practiced with a specific kit of objects (or sex-toys) such as handcuffs, ropes, cages and so on. It must be said, however, that in the Soft Bondage version even a tie can be enough to unleash the passion!
The bondage that so many of us have dreamed of with "50 Shades of Gray" can be approached in different ways, with more lightness and irony, bringing a bit of panache into your life as a couple (obviously if you and your partner are like this) of erotic games please!). In order to be defined bondage it is important that there is a consenting limitation of the freedom of movement of the partner's body ... you must both agree to experience this practice of "sexual slavery" and the agreements must be clear!
We must also be aware that bondage involves some risk ... in some cases it can even get hurt! So let's take a closer look at what bondage is, how it differs from BDSM (with which it is often confused), what are the techniques for its practice and what the kit is necessary to be able to experience it. Before proceeding with the reading of the " article, however, we recommend this video where you can find some erotic practices to fulfill fantasies with your partner.
Are bondage and BDSM the same thing?
No, BDSM and bondage are not the same thing! Often these two terms concerning sex and its practice of sexual slavery are confused (also because of the "50 Shades of Gray" ...): in reality, bondage is only a specific practice of BDSM.
BDSM brings together a wide range of sexual practices, including bondage, always based on "slavery" understood as a relationship and power play during sex, obviously between adult and consenting partners. Specifically, bondage is based on techniques for limiting body movements and does not use (not necessarily!) Sex toys such as whips or nipple clamps.
The practice of bondage
The practice of bondage uses precise techniques for its "erotic games" of domination and submission, in order to limit the normal movements of the body. In the order there are:
- the separation or divarication of parts of the body
- the connection of parts of the body to external objects, walls or supports
- suspension of the body from ceilings or supports
- the restriction or forced modification of normal body movements
- the "complete immobilization of the body, or" mummification ", which can lead to real sensory deprivation
An extreme bondage practice is that of (very dangerous) "erotic asphyxia" (or "breath control"): you have to be very careful not to overdo this practice because it can lead to severe brain damage and, in the worst cases, death.
Bondage kit: handcuffs, ropes and more!
On sale in sex shops or on the internet you will find many "bondage kits", that is a whole series of objects that can be of help for the practice of bondage. In circulation you will find really everything: from the very popular handcuffs (excellent for immobilizing the partner ) to real chains, from ropes and carabiners to gags and corsets, from caps and penis cages to fetish necklaces up to a bed with adjustable straps ... you and your partner will just have to let your imagination run wild !
However, such kits are not strictly necessary, especially if yours is pure curiosity and you want to try some Soft Bondage just to spice up the now known and strange married sex ... For good home bondage. "a scarf or a tie will really be enough to tie the partner's hands, or handcuffs covered with plush (much less" disturbing "than the imaginary BDSM ones) ... Let yourself be carried away by passion and improvise! At worst you'll just get a good laugh.
Japanese bondage or "Shibari"
A particularly popular bondage technique is that of Japanese bondage, called "Shibari" (which literally means "to tie"), but also "kinbaku" (ie "tight binding"). The fundamental difference between Western bondage and shibari lies in the type of ropes that are used to bind the woman and in the "almost artistic attention that is given in the shibari to the aesthetic result of the" binding ".
The pleasure in a couple who practices shibari lies precisely in the very sexy and intimate contact that is created between the binder and those who are bound: it is a real discipline with its own philosophy that distances it a little from the simple sexual game commonly. understood.
What are the risks of bondage practice?
As you may have guessed, these erotic games like those of bondage are not "rose water", so due caution is necessary because they can involve risks, even serious ones, for people's health. So it is not enough to trust your partner, but it is important to have a certain degree of skill and always keep control of the situation. You may have read in the newspaper reports cases of people, especially women, who have even lost their lives in this type of practice. So absolute attention, and be really sure you want to do it! The advice is to always establish a "safe-word" with your partner: when you pronounce it it will mean that it is time to stop playing!
