3 questions to understand if you are experiencing a definitive crisis or deadlock
Break or stall: Ask yourself three honest questions and the answers will speak for themselves. The couple certainly splits in two, but if something is broken in you, you need to understand it and stop lying to each other. We are not just talking about a crisis caused by a decline in desire, but about something deeper.
Watch this video, to understand if you have accepted yourselves for who you are and then ... move on to the 3 questions.
1. How badly do you want something new?
Crisis: if the desire to change air and life dominates other emotions. Everything seems to have been exhausted and already lived, and the time you spend with him does not remedy this continuous dissatisfaction that generates a desire for novelty. It's not just the inordinate desire for flirtation, even for the gym, that haunts you. You would like to experience new emotions, only yours.
If, on the other hand, the space of these emotions is significantly reduced when you find peaceful moments with him, then perhaps there is still something to recover.
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2. How authentic are you still?
Being authentic in a relationship is perhaps the most difficult of the challenges. Primarily because time passes, and we cut out roles, from which we find it hard to get out. But just this protection can become a cell, from which it is difficult to get out. How authentic are you still in your relationship? Because pretending leads to the search for something else, and we return to point 1 of the speech. If you feel that you are no longer authentic in this relationship, it is possible that it is the same for your partner. It is worth talking to him about it to understand if there is still something to be found, or if by now everything is broken.
3. How bored or comfortable do you feel in the relationship?
Boredom is a terrible feeling, everything is heavy and repetitive. What happens is that you are restless and you feel the desire to find a solution. The feeling of ease, on the other hand, has to do with being as you are, without the need for escapism, and discovering little things day by day. It does not mean always being together, on the contrary, knowing how to be alone is important.
Boredom and comfort are not always easy to distinguish, but the difference is between a relationship that is dying out and one that instead travels in the right direction.
If you're just going through a stalemate, try moving your relationship like this ...
