If you take a long time to feel physical attraction, you may be demisexual
It is not uncommon to meet someone with whom we have a certain spiritual feeling, mental understanding, interests in common. People who potentially like us but with whom we never get physical attraction. Many more women than we can imagine are wondering if they are actually asexual, precisely because of the almost total lack of physical stimulus, even though they have a sentimental interest. L " topic is not so simple, the nuances are different, and even delicate. Let's try to understand together what demisexuality is and what it means to belong to this sexual orientation.
Meanwhile, let's start by telling you that those who are demisexual feel the desire to make love, therefore, by meeting the right person, they could enjoy these benefits:
What is meant by demisexuality
Also called "gray sexuality", demisexuality is first of all a sentimental orientation, in fact it defines people who can only have sex if there is a strong feeling at the base of the relationship. This does not imply, however, that the relationship must be based or founded on want to start a family or get married, it is only essential that there is a deep knowledge.Moreover, demisexuality has nothing to do with a hormonal dysfunction or a physical disorder.While remaining attracted to a person, of any sex, just as it happens to everyone (therefore a type of innate and natural physical attraction), the attraction in itself is physically realized towards others only when a strong emotional bond is first established.
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Sentimental orientation and sexual orientation
Yes, in addition to sexual orientation there is also a sentimental one. Therefore, there would be both sexual and sentimental identities, which combine in different ways and give life to different orientations. The sentimental attraction would be an emotional reaction towards another, which translates into the desire for a romantic, more intimate relationship with the person who causes this attraction (we are talking about emotional and non-physical bond). An example, to make people understand the difference between sentimental and sexual orientation, concerns who sexual desire does not feel it, that is asexuals: they feel a romantic desire for their partner, but not physical.In the case of demisexuality, however, the physical desire is triggered only in the presence of a concrete emotional and affective bond.
Demisexuality is not really asexuality
We therefore deduce that being demisexual does not mean being asexual. Asexuals are not interested in sex, while demisexuals are. The substantial difference lies in the moment in which the demisexual begins to feel physical attraction towards the partner, and puts this attraction into practice with sexual intercourse. This happens in the demisexual only after the birth of a strong emotional bond, or of an "more affective than physical intimacy. In asexuals, desire, if experienced, does not have as its goal the fulfillment of sexual intercourse. It could be exhausted by masturbation, as well as not. , and without physical relations of any kind with the partner.In the demisexual, however, the desire for physical fulfillment, even if more complex and "hindered", is manifested in any case.
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