The decrease of desire in the couple
To know
- Be careful not to confuse the decrease in desire with the inability to experience pleasure. In fact, if stimulated, these people are able to reach orgasm.
- Women are more affected by this problem than men.
- The decline in desire is never final. It is important to become aware of it, but one cannot hope that it will pass by itself. We need to talk about it for things to change.
Each situation has its solution
Pharmacological Causes: Certain hormonal, anxiolytic and antidepressant treatments can have inhibitory effects on desire. Do not hesitate to talk to your doctor, it could change the dosage or prescription. Generally, the urge returns after discontinuation of treatment.
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Loss of desire: how to do?
Stress: you have just changed jobs, are working on a very demanding project or are going through financial problems… you have your head elsewhere. These small / big problems can cause a sharp drop in libido. Don't forget that the most important sexual organ is the brain! Don't make the mistake of underestimating this aspect of your life. It is at least as important as the work and deadlines. Learn to relax and dedicate more time to love, at the cost of forcing yourself a little at the beginning: appetite comes with eating!
An emotional shock: a dismissal, the loss of a loved one, the discovery of a betrayal ... these are traumatic events that can destabilize anyone, making them lose the desire to make love. In such cases, it is necessary to seek the help of a professional and start therapy. Alone or as a couple, a professional will be able to find a solution.
The strength of habit: by dint of seeing each other always, you don't look at each other anymore! The body of the other no longer appears to you as the empire of the senses. And you find yourself in bed, bored, fantasizing about other more or less unknown men. Learn to rediscover the other. Play exploring your bodies. Create an intimate and soft atmosphere and then, in turn, slowly caress your clothes, without thinking about sexual arousal. As the days and weeks pass, you will be able to push further exploration, in order to make the desire grow more and more ... until the explosion of pleasure and the desire, finally found, to make love. We must not hesitate to change habits, inventing new erotic games and surprising the other with new spicy fantasies.
Beware of the vicious circle!
It is the story of the snake eating its tail. You both realize that you no longer make love as often as before and that desire has dropped, but you don't talk about it! Avoid moments of intimacy, but each one feels guilty on his own. That's enough! Action must be taken! Password: communication. Even just admitting this change in your relationship will set the tone. You will feel relieved and you can only look for the source of the problem to solve it together: better organization of the time spent together, romantic trips to find yourself away from routine, couple therapy ...
