When a "no" is useless: 5 tips against children's whims
Tantrums are quite normal with young children and there is no reason to want to sink into the ground in shame. Yes, it's unpleasant, but everyone around you who has children of their own has probably experienced it too. So stay calm, take a deep breath, and with any luck the tantrums with screams, tears and blows will end after two minutes.
That's why babies get upset so fast
The reason children snap so quickly is frustration, simple and straightforward. About not being able to do something or not being able to get what they want. All adults know this too, with the difference that in this case you can express your frustration with words, you have the power to change something or you understand that this is the case and you have to live with it.
A child still can't understand it, can barely speak, and chooses the only way they know: scream, hit, rant. The complete package for throwing a tantrum. It's not cool, but it's just the way children free themselves. After all, it is nothing new that children need to move and let off steam in every moment of their days!
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Even if it's hard for parents: let them have a tantrum.
Your child must be allowed to express his anger as best he can. But show him clearly that hitting or kicking others is not an option. Find other ways to vent his anger, such as by punching a pillow.
5 tips to help you manage your baby's whims!
Of course, tantrums better happen as rarely as possible. It is not possible to completely prevent it, but there are some tips that you can use to prevent it.
For example, children get frustrated more quickly when they are tired or hungry.Therefore, try to keep bedtime and make sure you eat and drink regularly. Always carry a snack with you when you are out and about.
Also, try to nip any frustration in the bud and distract the child. If your child is still having a tantrum, stay calm and try the following tricks:
- Hug him tightly and tell him you love him, make him feel special.
- Ignore the tantrums and continue as usual.
- Distract the child and deliberately talk about something else.
- Let it unleash, but please don't leave it alone and be careful not to harm yourself or others.
- Focus the anger on one point: At home, let the child crumple or tear paper or punch a pillow. If you are out and about, you can also try a piece of paper or a tissue.
Give your baby time to calm down
Since tantrums are stressful for both parents and baby, don't talk about them right away, but wait a bit. Try to find out why the child got angry, make it clear that there are limits. Finding common solutions, offering alternatives so that the same things don't trigger a whim later. Educate the child also using games to stimulate creativity and their growth. Talk to your child.
