Explosive sex: everything you need to know!
What is explosive sex?
Explosive sex usually suggests spicy encounters with sexy underwear, sparkling looks and sexual wildness of all kinds and with anyone who attracts our erotic attention. This is not what is meant. By explosive sex we mean that pleasure that comes from waiting for the sexual moment, from putting the instinct "hot" to make it boil just enough to make it "explode". Today we are no longer capable of it, because we live in an era dominated by consumerism which, extended to the sexual sphere, directs it to the compulsive accumulation of partners, emptying the relationship of emotional meanings. In the illusion that all this means freedom, but the price is the loss of true enjoyment.
All too fast: no to "everything and now!"
If the expectation of the sexual moment is not cultivated, desire fades instead of exploding, because desire derives from lack. If you miss it you want, if you have everything you don't want anything. We see this in our children, who as soon as they get a new toy (barely requested), after a short time they put it aside and no longer want it. Waiting is an education of the senses that allows you to combine instinct with reflection, to arrive at a higher pleasure. Waiting nourishes the imagination, the imagination, promotes curiosity. It is also protective with respect to meetings of men and women, which, removed from a typically passionate initial involvement, cannot withstand the impact of a more lasting and stable relationship. Thus, carrying out an accurate selection starting with caution from unfortunate and painful relational outcomes. Do not be in a hurry, learn to read your feelings, to evaluate who you are in front of and wait to feel emotionally ready; the flower of sexuality will unfold itself.
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Small simple gestures
Today, that almost all sexual prohibitions have declined, we are led to have ever more new and transgressive erotic experiences, with the illusion that novelty makes us immune from the decline in desire. New for new, like a chain, we do not infrequently end up in situations bordering on extreme sex. Always using the comparison with children: just as the complexity of today's computerized and hyper-technological toys has made children lose the taste for simple games, that is, those games in which with a few simple objects but with a lot of imagination, the children occupied satisfied all the afternoon; in the same way, in sexuality, the rush to fill it with sex toys, erotic chats, virtual sex, mostly mechanical or hasty erotic sequences ... leads us to forget or underestimate the delight of small, simple, genuine and natural gestures.
First of all the kiss. It is to be rediscovered as a sign of the highest erotic interest, a gateway to bodily intimacy, it guarantees shocking sensations. Exploratory, gentle, energetic the kiss all over the body, accompanied by effusions, hugs, caresses, flavors, fragrances, colors can represent a truly explosive sexual cocktail! And then time: calm and slowness. Since it is somewhat unfair to discriminate the slower female pleasure (the woman needs 20 - 30 minutes to get aroused!) In favor of the faster male pleasure (a few minutes), the modern man knows that during intercourse they reign supreme. above all the foreplay, from which, however, also the man, often without his knowledge, benefits: the woman, feeling desired and satisfied, tends to disinhibit, while the man conserving the energy, allows his pleasure to expand throughout the body . Afterwards, we also give the green light to all the sexual variety we want in respect of oneself and the other; bearing in mind, however, that the technique or performance does not matter much, but the emotions, the attraction and the desire felt! And above all, let us never forget the frame in which to insert sexuality, if we want it to be truly explosive, that is, a love relationship.
A love relationship
Care for the relationship. Appreciate your partner, tell them how much you appreciate them, surround the couple with positivity, encouragement, dialogue, understanding, support, romance, respect, kindness, time to spend together, and attention. Be faithful. Tell each other the nice things but don't keep the misunderstandings silent. This is how chasms are created: from the "unspoken", from "forget it, I don't want to argue, so much passes". But it does not pass. Ignoring problems only leads to magnification and repressed hostility is the enemy of sex.
It does not take amazing actions, special acrobatics, thongs or the latest fashion garters to have an explosive sex life, but a relationship of love, respect and trust and a few simple, but constant and daily gestures. Today we have lost sight of them in pursuit of frenzy, transgression, abundance. An invitation to simplicity therefore. Nothing else is needed!
