I WANT TO GET MARRIED: 21 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW BEFORE GETTING ENGAGED!

There are many of us who dream of walking on the steps of the church looking our prince charming in the eyes.
But it is always good to distinguish dream and reality and understand right away how married life is also dedication, commitment and concreteness. And knowledge of the other.

To prevent our legitimate dream of a happy and fulfilling married life from being wrecked after a quarter of an hour, here is a list of 21 simple things to know BEFORE getting engaged and buying the wedding dress!

1. Your partner's religious beliefs

It doesn't matter if you are religious or not. But it's important to know if your partner is and what I believe. And then ask yourself a few questions about yourself and how you feel about a certain faith, whether your belief, if you have it, can align with that of your partner.
It may seem a speech out of context and a little out of date, but religious beliefs, when they exist, could considerably affect the life of a couple.

2. Political convictions

Liberal or conservative? Right or left? It may be true that opposites attract, but it would be better to avoid political arguments every time. If you are particularly passionate about politics, then, it takes very little to warm up for nothing!

3. Ambitions at work

Two people who have different levels of ambition may have problems in the future. A sort of internal competition could be created that would not do too much good for the couple, as it is useless and harmful, since the professional dimension is separate from that of the couple.

4. Previous relationships

Really knowing your partner also means knowing their past relationships. This will help you understand even better what your boyfriend's personality really is and above all the way he manages the life of a couple.

5. Having children

A very important issue, to be addressed as soon as possible. In fact, not everyone wants to have children: it is necessary to know your partner's intentions as soon as possible on such an important and delicate point.

6. Relationship with money

Is your partner a cicada or an ant? Do you spend on frivolous things or are you thrifty? When you are preparing for a life together, like it or not, money will play a crucial role in your daily life.

7. Marriage is not just a party

Of course, the wedding day has to be a big party. But it's a special party because it doesn't end like any other party ...

8. You will fight ..

... and that's right. You are two individuals trying to be one. Natural to have a few disagreements, or more than one disagreement.
But it's certainly not the end of the world (or your relationship!) If this happens, quite the opposite!
The key is to understand how arguments can strengthen the couple leading to a better understanding of each other.

9. It is right to still have a life outside the couple

Don't allow your relationship to become a possession relationship. Your lunches with friends? Keep doing them. Does he go with friends for a beer? Don't stop it.

10. The ring does not make you its mistress

Continuing the point above, you should never pretend to control someone, nor allow them to do it. He is a "other person, with his thoughts, his opinions, his life.

11. When to say sorry

Admitting that you are wrong is never easy. Neither to yourself nor to your partner. But it is a skill that matters a lot in the life of a couple, and must be learned and cultivated. Knowing how to say sorry is sometimes crucial in a good relationship.
There is nothing more annoying and more annoying than a person who thinks he is always right. "Sorry" is a magic word on many occasions: it is not for nothing that we have been taught it since we were children.

12. Stand firm and fight only when it's really worth it

Not everything must be debated and contested. Choose wisely on what to strike up a couple clash!

13. Where to go to live

The decision of where to live is necessarily something that all couples must discuss. Better not to blame yourself on the dreams of a child or on a particular place. There is also him, with his needs and tastes.

14. Expand their domestic skills

Can you cook? Can you clean? Can you iron? Do you know how to do something or do I have to do everything at home?
We recommend that you investigate your boyfriend's domestic skills before formalizing any engagement.

15. Family and friends

You certainly can't hope to spend the rest of your life with someone without having to deal with their friends and family. They are part of him and his life. Get to know them as soon as possible.

16. Bad habits

We all have them. Biting your nails, sitting in front of your pc for hours, leaving your underwear at home. If there is some bad habit that you just can't stand in another, it's best to find out first!

17. Perfection does not exist

The prince charming and the perfect man do not exist. The sooner you accept it the better.

18. How he treats his mother

The way he treats his mother mirrors the way he treats all women. If he treats her badly, avoid getting engaged to him.

19. Determine your key points

Marriage would be understood as "Till death do us part". But that doesn't mean you have to become someone's doormat, or accept anything.
Therefore, fix with yourself and with your partner the key points, the limits not to be exceeded, the determining elements that must be respected in order to keep the relationship going.
Make it clear immediately what are the things you could never accept in a relationship.

20. How your partner handles anger

When people really get angry they can show a "different nature. Often their true nature. Other times they don't really mean what they say in the fumes of anger."
Pay close attention to these moments, which certainly will come. They can reveal to you about your partner something you never could have thought of.
And certainly it is better not to marry those who cannot control their moments of anger.

21. Mutual knowledge

This sounds obvious. But it's not that obvious: and it sums up all the previous points a bit. If you think too much about the wedding day while you're still dating it, it's possible that you're not taking the time to really get to know it. Don't make this mistake.

See also:
10 clues that prove you're dating a child (and not a man)
Passionate fidelity: how fidelity eroticizes the relationship
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