How to get left behind: 5 foolproof moves!
When we fall in love we are ready to accept our partner with his strengths and weaknesses. His happiness also becomes ours because loving really means supporting each other, being there for each other at any time and wanting to improve without changing those around us. However, it may happen that one morning we open our eyes and see our loved one. under a different light: that relationship has become close to us and, even if he has done nothing wrong or different from usual, we want to end the relationship to try, perhaps, new experiences.
Of course, it could be a couple crisis that can be resolved, but if not ... how to get broken up?
Yes, because sometimes we don't feel like saying "it's over" ourselves. Ending a relationship is never easy on both sides. Those who are left suffer from the decision made by the other person, while those who leave feel themselves to be guilty of the end of history and many prefer not to take this responsibility. So why not resort to some stratagem that even reminds us of an irreverent " Hollywood comedy, How to get left in 10 days? Of course, there the protagonist Benjamin Barry is played by Matthew McConaughey who we challenge anyone to want to let him escape ...
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How to get left in 10 days: is it possible in real life?
Let's briefly review the plot of the film How to get left in 10 days to understand if and how this can be implemented in real life. Andie Anderson is a young woman who is trying to emerge in the world of journalism and who carries out a very particular column on how to do a certain thing in ten days. With various vicissitudes she finds herself the same protagonist of one of her articles where she has to demonstrate that it is possible to be left in just under two weeks. Benjamin Barry, on the other hand, has an important task on his hands, which is to demonstrate that a diamond can sanction true love and for this he must always find a woman within ten days and make her fall in love with him.
So, in the Hollywood comedy starring Kate Hudson and Matthew McConaughey, the protagonist's strategies for letting go are not so much wanted by her, but imposed from above to be able to break into the editorial office she works for. However, if you, too, like Andie Anderson , you are convinced that your boyfriend will leave you, here are 5 moves that will not fail!
1. "Postage Stamp and Postcard" Tactics
One of the main rules of life as a couple is respect for the spaces of others. It is never good that two partners live in symbiosis and that they do not have separate moments for them: going out with close friends, dinners with work colleagues, soccer matches, yoga classes or any other passion represent opportunities to hang out with people other than your partner and establish that "independence that everyone needs, perhaps to a different extent. Here, if you are thinking about how to make yourself break up, start overturning this good habit with the" postage stamp and postcard "tactic!
What does it mean? Simple, try to want to be with him all the time, complaining when he tells you that he only wants to go out with his circle of friends or that he already has a commitment and cannot be with you. We don't know if it works exactly in ten days like the movie, but no one can stand pressing and "clingy" people in the long run and surely this move will tire them - at least a little - of your presence.
2. Be boring!
Each of us has different characters: there are those who show themselves to be more active and with a continuous desire to do things and those who, on the other hand, prefer situations of calm and relaxation. There is nothing wrong with this, the important thing is not to become boring. Obviously, in the manual of the "How to be left"this rule does not apply, indeed it is essential to be as boring as ever before"! It doesn't take a lot of effort, because boredom can be undermined in any context. For example, in conversations: no more cheerful and carefree tone or interesting topics. From now on, only stories of useless facts that just do not concern your him, such as clothing, nonsense details of your going out with friends or things like that.
Also, make the enthusiasm for each proposal disappear: your will to live seems to have given itself to the escape from your deepest self and therefore you will reject any activity that your partner advises you to do. Who could ever resist in a relationship with a such a boring person?
3. Engage in unnecessary complaints and arguments
Having a peaceful relationship also means meeting and accepting the other, with his qualities and his small (or big) defects. Since the intent is to be let go, you have to put aside tolerance and start behaving like you probably don't. have you ever done, that is, complaining about everything. Does your he wash the dishes? Not as good as he did it. He cooks? He didn't prepare the dish right. Does he compliment you? at the end of the quarrel he must be the one who attacked the fight and not you. Is there something more annoying?
Every man or woman has a maximum level of tolerance and with this tactic anyone, even the most patient person, will reach the limit. Just as Kate Hudson wanted to push the charming Matthew McConaughey away with all her might, put this move into action and you will certainly get closer to your goal.
4. Be impatient with his family and friends
When you are with someone, it's normal not to fully appreciate some of their friends or family: we can't all be nice to each other. However, the situation changes significantly when this intolerance becomes generalized and affects all his acquaintances and his family. Look listless and bored when she asks you to go to her mother's house and commit to being the future "daughter-in-law" that no woman would want! Do the same in the presence of his friends, taking a disinterested and grumpy attitude towards even the smallest banality.
If your partner is patient, it may be that the first time he or she may apologize under the pretext of "a bad day", but if this discontent becomes a routine, rest assured that he will no longer be so tolerant ... and that's exactly what it is. do you want, right?
5. Compare him to others
If the other pieces of advice weren't exactly the best of ethics, this one is even less so because it consists of playing dirty. How much does the idea of a partner making constant appreciation of other women bother us? Sure, paying a compliment once in a while is more than okay but if it all turns into a habit it's easy to lose your temper. Well, that's the same thing you might start doing. If you go out for a walk or are you out in a club, do not miss an opportunity to declare an appreciation for another man, perhaps in a not very subtle way. Furthermore, there is no worse affront for a partner to be compared to an ex or other people, including friends.
The comparison with both an old flame and a stranger makes you feel threatened and it is a moment that you explode in a scene of anger and / or jealousy. Even in this case, the guilty role in all this will be his since he does not know how to control and who may have said unkind words to you during the discussion.
The drawbacks
As we have already said, deciding to leave may seem like an excellent idea to not feel the weight and responsibility of ending a relationship permanently. However, we would like to clarify that completely upsetting your way of behaving and putting your partner in a bad light with these tricks can almost definitively ruin the relationship that binds you, beyond love and life as a couple. Therefore, it is up to you to choose whether you want to maintain any kind of relationship, even friendship, with this person or not. In the end, honesty always pays off!
